:( Hmm.

[Tasyi]

So I'm 25 weeks, my fiancé still does not have a job, pushes me around, cusses & yells at me, smokes allllll the time, PLUS had his "best friend" & his gf move in.. & he's always with them & does stupid ****, His best friends girlfriend sits there & smokes with **** too. He always tells me he'll quit doing this & quit doing that, but doesnt. I'm so tired of this.. I feel taken advantage of. Plus his best friend is really abusive to his gf too, totally insecure, doesnt let her leave, or anything. I'm just fed up.. & I'm not sure what I can do about it.. Im only 16 & my fiance is 18, we are getting married before the baby & I'm scared that once we tie the knot that he'll become worse.. How do I deal with this nonsense? Please no bashing!

[Tasyi]

@proudFTMTeTe yeah I know I asked but I should have stated my culture, the rules, & my ethnicity & stuff. Cause now everyone changing it to me being the bad one.. I'm not saying he's the best guy or anything but pretty much I made my bed & now have to lay in it.. I understand some people get worse I'm just hoping he will get better. He stopped pushing me around & yeah there's a chance he may start again but I have seen a difference, the smoking & what not is what I don't like.. His friend & his girlfriend will be leaving once his mom adopts his gf next month.. not sure what more I can say to make anyone understand my "religions allegations".. :/

[abbb01]

Where are u at?

[Tasyi]

I know it does, my parents were like that but stopped thats the thing is he stopped. I'm not saying what he did is forgotten or fine. But people do change, the only thing he does wrong now is sit there & smoke all the time with out looking for a job. I know at first it was wrong for staying but now I do not have a choice. My culture & rules are different from the average persons life.. If I leave I will be tortured & probably end up losing my baby.. They do not care how old or what not. They will bring me to the smoke house & torture me. I agreed to marry him & everything because of my culture. & also because he learned to stop. I should not have even mentioned that in this post but idk. I shouldn't have even made the post at all.. I'm not saying you are but I asked for no bashing & then someone has to go & tell me I'm a bad parent when they have never been in the position or grew up in my ethnicity or anything..

[proudFTMTeTe]

Well sweetie u asked how to deal with the non sense n in my opinion u don't deal with the non sense if its ur house u put ur foot down n demand respect point blank period! N if u can't get respect in your own house then who ever can't respect u needs to leave!! N Idk ur culture but sweetie its not going to get better just cuz u get married its going to get worse n then your child will be in a unstable home with verbal or physical abuse either one it still not good for a child to be in

[0318_0214]

Tasyi, I was in a horrible relationship that was veey abusive both mentally & physically throughout my entire first pregnancy & a few months afterwards. It was horrible. The best decision I ever made was gettinf out of it. For both my daughter & me. When the parents are in a horrible relationship it affects the child more than you can imagine. My advice to you, is do your best to leave. No female, & most definitely NO BABY deserves to be in that kind of environment. I pray you make the right decision even if it is hard for you & your child.

[Tasyi]

Yeah I understand, idk its different from what everyone else grew up to. Idk, sorry I even asked. I'm not saying hes doing right by me or anything but still nobody will ever get it. @abbb01