My boyfriend won't have vaginal sex with me

[coldbloodtruth]

My bf 23 will not have sex with me 20, and we have been dating for abt a year, we both love each other to where we couldn't let the other go unless they cheat. he has anal sex with me sometimes, and we do everything else sexually, but he says his reason is marriage, he wants to wait til we are married. of course i can't believe this reason. he evern said b4 that he wanted me to force it on him and i just dont want my first time like that. what is wrong? what can i do??? ohh btw i have a 2 year old daughter and he is a virgin. (besides the anal sex hes had with me)

[specialmom]

To that I agree.  There is a very strong chance that his preference will always be anal sex and there is also a good chance that he has a few hang ups overall regarding sex that I'd not be thrilled to deal with.  

[RockRose]

I'm  not saying he's gay necessarily,  I'm just saying this won't turn itself around after marriage.  This is a man who,  for whatever reason,  doesn't want to have vaginal sex.

[specialmom]

Well, I don't know.  Are you saying he is gay Rockrose?  Who knows.  Maybe.  But I find the highly sexual relationship in which she is willing to do anything and he has his limits quite odd.  

[RockRose]

I SOO respect the other posters in this thread,  but I have to say.

A man who is not so overcome with desire that he throws caution to the wind at least once - doesn't, in fact want to have vaginal sex.  

I'm just sayin'.  With all due respect.

[Londres70]

I agree with Specialmom.  

It is sounding more and more as if he doesn't want your PREGNANT before marriage or just doesn't want you pregnant.  Dear, condoms are NOT 100% foolproof.  There are MANY unplanned pregnancies related to condom failure and/or improper usage.  Everytime you have vaginal sex there is a change of pregnancy whether there is a condom used or not.  Of course the chance increases tremendously if there is NO condom used.    

Why not withhold ALL sexual activities UNTIL you all are married?

Are you sure about what you want?  One minute you say it's no big deal to wait and then you say you can't stand waiting.  You sound confused.  

In your initial post, you stated he wanted you to "force it on him."  Then you say he wants to have vaginal sex after he is married.  Does he know what he wants?  

Not to be rude but this whole situation sound contradictory and confusing.  I don't get the comment about the "strap on" and the "threesome."  Why would you resort to that?  

[Bnl1024]

he might have a fear of not being good enough due to your past sexual partners. If he really never have sex before he might be scared of not being able to please you! pshh girl, if i were you i would just be like whatever and make him give it up! lol what can it hurt if thats what he wants.but once he does have sex with you he'll understand the reason you been so sexually frustrated...