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Really Dislike his Ex Wife..Not sure what to think
Well I have posted issues about my relationship before because my bf has mood swings. Besides all of that there is an issue that bugs me.
He has been divorced from his ex wife for 7 years they have two boys together (9+6). He hasn't had any type of relations with her for 3 years now. They're relationship was very distructive and verbally abusive.
When i first was dating my boyfriend his ex had a lot of control over him being the fact that he hadn't moved on and is all about his boys. She gets a great deal of money from him for child support and would still weezle money out of him using the boys as an excuse. When he had the boys (or didn't) she was calling and txting all day. They would continue to fight a lot. Then when me and him got serious she went crazy, she would talk about me and also tried taking the boys away. She did anything she could..... Keep in mind she has a boyfriend who has been living with her for 2 years. Yet denies it!
Well at one point he made all of this my business, i told him that i would be with a guy who gave all his income away. I also would tell him that once she started to fight to just ignore her (because he would partake in it). Thankfully he listened and stopped that behavior. Believe me it's worse then what i describe he would even have to tell her what the kids ate. He has always been very sincere and always showed me the text messages where she would hit on him and he was always really short.
In august there was a huge fight between her and I and then her and him. She then put a restraining order on him stating he bit and punched his kids. She made up so many lies... Then was trying to get full custody and got a lawyer. Well i helped my bf with money (3,000) to get a lawyer to not lose his kids. It was a couple months of that and he started to win the case. Finally they came to an agreement...
Anywho since then he has his boys, one day she called and apologized after them not speaking for months. This was a couple of days ago. The conversation went on for half an hour she stated she wanted them to get along. Well my problem is that since then she keeps texting and calling and uses the boys as an excuse. I talked to my guy about it and he swears he would never do me wrong and that he knows her intentions and doesn't trust her either. I have seen his text messages where he is very short with her. Last night she texted him when he was at work (he works nights) and that bugged me. I trust him but i can't stand her so therefore I don't know what to do.
He has been divorced from his ex wife for 7 years they have two boys together (9+6). He hasn't had any type of relations with her for 3 years now. They're relationship was very distructive and verbally abusive.
When i first was dating my boyfriend his ex had a lot of control over him being the fact that he hadn't moved on and is all about his boys. She gets a great deal of money from him for child support and would still weezle money out of him using the boys as an excuse. When he had the boys (or didn't) she was calling and txting all day. They would continue to fight a lot. Then when me and him got serious she went crazy, she would talk about me and also tried taking the boys away. She did anything she could..... Keep in mind she has a boyfriend who has been living with her for 2 years. Yet denies it!
Well at one point he made all of this my business, i told him that i would be with a guy who gave all his income away. I also would tell him that once she started to fight to just ignore her (because he would partake in it). Thankfully he listened and stopped that behavior. Believe me it's worse then what i describe he would even have to tell her what the kids ate. He has always been very sincere and always showed me the text messages where she would hit on him and he was always really short.
In august there was a huge fight between her and I and then her and him. She then put a restraining order on him stating he bit and punched his kids. She made up so many lies... Then was trying to get full custody and got a lawyer. Well i helped my bf with money (3,000) to get a lawyer to not lose his kids. It was a couple months of that and he started to win the case. Finally they came to an agreement...
Anywho since then he has his boys, one day she called and apologized after them not speaking for months. This was a couple of days ago. The conversation went on for half an hour she stated she wanted them to get along. Well my problem is that since then she keeps texting and calling and uses the boys as an excuse. I talked to my guy about it and he swears he would never do me wrong and that he knows her intentions and doesn't trust her either. I have seen his text messages where he is very short with her. Last night she texted him when he was at work (he works nights) and that bugged me. I trust him but i can't stand her so therefore I don't know what to do.
I wasn't going to have a problem with her either. I have no control of what he does. Nor want to. I was the better person to walk away and let her look dumb. I never picked a fight or tried to get in there relationship. I was just wanting my kids to be with there father. But that's not happening for them. I've tried and it just didn't happen. Its his lose.
Londres.. I too have kids from my ex. I honestly don't know what he does with his life. But i know that i want nothing to do with him. So much so that i wish him the best. I would love for him to be a father. I don't like my babies not having a dad. I always hoped for him to learn how to treat women after how he treated me. In my case my bf's ex still wants to be with him. So she is hatefull... your lucky to be in your situaion and to have it run the right way. I am fortunate that the babies are good to me. They are just normal kids and believe me their mom puts so much in their head but they are ok.
What kind of woman would keep her husband or bf from seeing his kids with his ex? I would never do such nonsense. Actually, your ex is more to blame then the current gf/wife. This is exactly what I was talking about; people putting their issues, i.e. jealousy, insecurities, etc. before the REAL issue=kids.
I live on both sides of the fence. I am the current wife dealing with an ex and stepchildren and I have a son with my ex husband who has remarried which makes me "the ex." My son gets along great with his stepfather and his stepmother. I talked to my ex-husband's wife once and wished him and her the best. She treats my son good, so there wasn't any problems. She is definitely different from me, but my son and ex love her so I am ok with that. I never felt intimidated, upset, or angry that she is involved in my son's life because she is a decent person. Never felt I had to "check her out" to make sure "this and that" was ok because my son would have definitely told me.
I live on both sides of the fence. I am the current wife dealing with an ex and stepchildren and I have a son with my ex husband who has remarried which makes me "the ex." My son gets along great with his stepfather and his stepmother. I talked to my ex-husband's wife once and wished him and her the best. She treats my son good, so there wasn't any problems. She is definitely different from me, but my son and ex love her so I am ok with that. I never felt intimidated, upset, or angry that she is involved in my son's life because she is a decent person. Never felt I had to "check her out" to make sure "this and that" was ok because my son would have definitely told me.
Yea that's true. Just sometimes I wish he would see he's hurting his kids. He has an 11yo that just hates him for it. I try to tell him that no matter what he your father. And will always be. But he's very very stubborn right now. He says that's not his father, that his father does his homework with him everyday buys him his game and plays baseball with him. I know my ex (I never married him) is going to realize,maybe, one day how much he hurt these kids. And how much he's missing out on their lives. I try to tell my kids but right now they just hate him. And one day he'll live to regret it. I wont fight with this girl no way I would because for one I'm 5'5 and I'm a thick girl. She's 4'11 and like half my weight ill hurt her and I'm not trying to go to jail for breaking her in half. Girl is all talk. But the main focus are the kids and they get the attention from a man that loves them very much. And does it all. He understands because he also grew up without a father not by choice his father passed away when he was only 2 months old. So he just goes to the top for them. I just don't get how someone that has kids but can forget about them and let a witch get in the way. I couldn't do it. My babies are the world to me. Even though they drive me up the wall sometimes LOL. Its just not the way to act in front of kids or even blame the kids for his own mistakes. I just don't understand why? I just know this woman is crazy to keep him away.
That is definitely sad what has happened in your situation bunniiebaybii.
I am not sure why this is always an issue; the ex-wife vs the current wife.
I have stepchildren and have yet to interact with the ex-wife. I feel it is just NOT my place nor is it necessary to be involved with her. I let my husband "handle" her so to speak. It is not about whether I like "this or that" about the ex or what she does with her money, etc. it is about being a mature adult and letting my husband parent his children with his ex. Placing myself in their drama I think would make things worse for my husband and well for my stepchildren. Of course my husband and I have had many chats over an issue with the ex, but I have never confronted her nor will I.
I think both parties (exs and current wives) should remember the FOCUS shouldn't be them and their issues, but the children involved.
I am not sure why this is always an issue; the ex-wife vs the current wife.
I have stepchildren and have yet to interact with the ex-wife. I feel it is just NOT my place nor is it necessary to be involved with her. I let my husband "handle" her so to speak. It is not about whether I like "this or that" about the ex or what she does with her money, etc. it is about being a mature adult and letting my husband parent his children with his ex. Placing myself in their drama I think would make things worse for my husband and well for my stepchildren. Of course my husband and I have had many chats over an issue with the ex, but I have never confronted her nor will I.
I think both parties (exs and current wives) should remember the FOCUS shouldn't be them and their issues, but the children involved.
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