I'm going to go ahead and agree with anniebrooke that you should hold this secret inside until your dying day and live each day knowing how close you were to losing it all. For the rest of your life, you can make this up to your husband by being faithful, working on the problems, and owning your contribution to them.
I would suggest that you begin seeing a therapist as soon as possible by yourself to discuss what led you down the path of such a bad decision. I'm sure you are a woman that wants to live with integrity and respect for yourself. So, you became weak and did this which is in contradiction to that. You need to really explore that. This need for attention that you have that would allow you to sell out your own morals is something to address. Could you be slightly depressed?
Know that something like you describe with this quick cheating and then deep regret means that often the cheating was a band aid for other problems you and the relationship have. You really need to explore that aspect to it so that you don't weaken again.
And if you feel that it would help improve your marriage dynamic, certainly, go to a seperate therapist as a couple to try to get on the same page again. good luck
I own my mistake trust me i look at my self in the mirrow and ask my self abd tell myself why did you do, why did you fall into temptation, i cry loud ij my car because i just dont know what to do!
Hi annie, the guilt is killing me, this was something i never thought i would do and did it, wish i could go back in time and erase what i did but i cant, my heart tells me to tell him the trust, but thinking of the pain it will cause him holds me back, ive been trying to figure out why i did it, things that i thought he was always busy with work, he would not even text much to say hi, at times when i would talk to him he would not even make eye contact, the times i tried telling him how i feel, he would just say idk what you are talking about we are ok he never listened to what i had to say abd when he did he would say ok i will and he would for a week abd theb chabge again. This cituation is driving me crazy and idk what to do, god help me
Yes, you made a mistake, but please own it. It wasn't just a mistake, it was a choice that came from your free will. Saying it's a mistake doesn't erase what happened. That is why your intentions from this point forward matter so much. Though I don't think "doing the right thing" in this circumstance means you absolutely must confess to your husband, I do think doing the right thing in this circumstance mandates you figure out why you did it and deal with the pressures that nudged you into doing it, so the lack of confession to him will have meaning. Fix the root problem (if you can), if you are going to take a bye on dealing with the symptom.
I also ask not to be judge because no one is perfect we all make mistakes. Im an imperfect person loved by a perfect god!
Thank. You, yeah i do love my hubby, i inow it will never happen again, if why day we dont work out i rather have it end because we both see that we dont belong together then end because of a mistake. Ive been through alot growing up always felt lonely, i want my hubby to change i want him to be sweet to me and romantic, i always tell him but he doesnt listen. All i know is i want to save my marriage i dont want to lose him
In our marriage, there is a constant giving of oneself, constant sacrificing and compromising our individuality. We do this for love of another and also to grow old with the person and share all life till the good Lord calls us home.
This constant giving has moments of wanting our individually back and we are tempted, as with affairs, gambling, drugs and the list goes on.
Sometimes we fall and have deep regret but always remember that we are human and can only try and learn from our weakness. We all do it, all have sinned.
I would put this behind you and focus on your creative side. This obviously has had a great inpact on you and has opened up a new part in your thinking ability.
Take this new awareness and turn it into a positive. Try writing poetry, a book, some song lyrics and possibility turning it into a financial gain.
Maybe invent a product.
There are much bigger events going on than the things we get ourselves into.
I wrote the below called "being a better person"
"Just looking up into space and realizing
there are Stars, Black Hoes and Vastness,
also our Galaxy and even the Universe.
They say when we get to the edge of the
Universe our comprehension stops as the
concept of Infinity bangs heads with Self.
Whats up there dosent have to try. it just is.
We are no different but have been taught
otherwise."