Verginity

[carrylovesjack]

What do I do because my friends have all had sex and I am the only one in my "group" who hasn't and I don't want to. I believe sex is ment for marriage but I keep getting so much pressure from all of them. I am just so confused

[teko]

So, whats to miss besides all the drama it causes that gets your life offtrack. I think your the smartest one of the bunch. I mean really, what has it gotten them besides a closer look at std's and more drama than one needs at that age? Besides that if you hold out, you will be truly giving yourself to your man in marriage. Not part of you and every tom, **** and harry that walked into your path before you met him.....

[DerekTelephaga]

wait till you're married, if they try to pressure you to change yourself in ANY way, then they arent real friends. im almost 18 and im still a virgin, if i can wait till im married and ignore the pressure, then you can too, come one, we can  keep our virginity together :)

[sweetpea03]

yup, I do remember that Westguy1003. I have a number of friends in their mid twenties who are all virgins, guys and girls. They've all chosen to wait, some for marriage and others until they meet the right person. Not just someone to randomly have sex with. I waited myself and am very happy that I did. I had been pressured to have sex by a number of guys, though always stood my ground. There's no reason to rush into having sex. Have sex when YOU are ready.  

[Westguy1003]

Sweetpea I think you'll remember this, we had a woman over on the sexual health board who was in her 30's and a virgin. It's not unusual to wait and it's not a bad thing either.

Speaking from a guy's perspective it's not something that we, as guys, find weird or strange or anything like that. Quite the contrary. When you find a nice guy that you're in a good, healthy relationship with he'll be fine with it and respect it greatly.

[Amie635]

Be proud that you are a virgin, be proud of your beliefs in no sex before marriage. In this day and age it is rare to find. There is nothing wrong with having sex at 17 if you are in a relationship and you are ready, but there is something wrong with having sex because you feel under pressure.

Because of your age sex is going to be a big topic, maybe that's why there's so much pressure, but give it a while and the whole excitement surrounding it will die down.

You will regret having sex when you aren't ready too.

[sweetpea03]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting, and I will tell you that you will probably be happier if you do wait and actually lose your virginity to someone that you really love. Don't let peer pressure make you do something you aren't ready for/aren't comfortable with. I have a number of friends who have waited and some who haven't. The ones who just gave it up soon definitely regret it. Stay strong and good luck.

[jenkaye21]

Friends should NOT pressure you in any way, to do anything you don't want to do.  IN fact, some of those friends will likely someday regret their decision to have sex at a young age (if they don't regret it already), and they will wish they had made the decision you have.  Just wait, you'll see, and I agree with Westguy, the guy you end up with will definitely appreciate the fact that you waited.  It means a lot.
Stay strong!!

[jrobertson20]

Don't let the pressures get to you.  Don't give in to just "fit in" to your group of friends.  If they can't respect you for your decisions you need to evaluate if they are truly your friends.  True friends stand beside what you want and believe and are there for you.  I commend you on your decision and I think it's awesome.  Not many people feel that way anymore and I think it's great.  It is a special thing to share so you need to feel comfortable.  Keep strong.  Good luck.

[Westguy1003]

It's okay to wait until you feel ready to do it with someone that you want to do it with.

You're in high school, right? Trust me when you get older high school is a distant memory and nobody (especially you) will remember or care about what you did or didn't do. And when you're older and you find a good guy you really like and want to be with, trust me he'll respect the fact that you waited as long as you did.

You don't have to get into a big long discussion with your friends about it, if they ask you why or they get on you for it just shrug it off and say "eh, I don't want to."

Don't give them anything to run with, ya know?

[quebrasi]

nobody has the right to pressure you.Its your body and you should remain a virgin until you feel comfortable.Sex is not going anywhere so dont be in a hurry.Sex was here before you were born and it will still be here after you are gone so take it easy until you are comfortable