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Two men in four days, how can I be sure who's the father???
My son is two years old and looks very much like my partner. But I am not completely sure if he is my partners son as he looks like my ex also (my ex and my current partner resemble each other slightly). I have had doubts as to who the father is since I fell pregnant because I slept with my ex four days before I started sleeping with my partner. The day after I first slept with my partner (four days after sleeping with my ex) I had some spotting which lasted two days. I started to get the pregnancy symptoms around a week later and had a positive pregnancy around four to five weeks after the bleeding. I am so confused because my baby looks like my partner but is really light skinned and has more Caucasian hair. But he has more black features. My partner is black, my ex is mixed and I'm caucasian. I'm soooo confused and can't get it out of my head... I really don't want to mention it to my partner because it would break his heart if he's not the dad...
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Ask the one whose heart won't be broken by the question, i.e., your ex. He knows that you slept together pretty close to the time when you got together with the new guy. Your present guy doesn't know this, I guess, if it would break his heart if he's not the dad. So, get you, the boy and the ex swabbed and send it off. If it's not a match, then you know your present guy is the dad without having to break it to him that he might not be. If it is a match, then you have some telling to do.
Thank's for your comment. Yes I totally agree that it's only fair to my son and his father. It's just so hard to build up the courage to ask one of them for a dna sample because it's been so long. But I can't keep living in denial so I am going to pluck up the courage to do something about it.
You won't ever know by guessing. Dates are too close. You HAVE to get a DNA test. It's only fair to your son to know who his true father is, and for the father to know as well.
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