Is my vigina normal? :/

[Allie1213]

I have been worried about my vigina not being normal, these 2 flabs witch i think are 'lips', are saggie and i showed my cusin, (witch is a virgin) and freaked out.... becuase of the flabs, one of them is longer than the other. Im 13 and im scared that when i get older and deside to have sex that a guy would freak out like my (girl) cusin did. I dont want to tell my mom... ever. it would be wayyy to embarssing and weird. i told my aunt and she asked if i was a virgin and i said yes, but i used a tampon once becuase i ran out of pads.... she told me it was because i did that, and that it pulled it all out, but its just ugly. and i have been haveing alot of this crusty stuff in my panties that is white/yellow. some one told me it was discharge, is that normal?? and should i get my vigina checked out by a doctor? plz help!!

[Karlee_thomas]

Do they go away?

[AnnieBrooke]

You did not create vaginal lips by putting in a tampon or taking it out.  I would take any advice from your aunt with a grain of salt from now on, she is entirely incorrect in telling you that.

As your body grows and matures, the vagina moves from a little-girl vulva to a big-girl one, which means your vaginal lips grow, and the whole effect is rather like a hamburger with lettuce hanging out (thick lettuce, that is).  DO NOT WORRY about this, it is entirely NORMAL.  And men like it.  The correct name for vaginal lips (besides vaginal lips) is labia, and if someone says to a man, 'big labia,' the man looks very excited and happy and says "Where?  Where?"  It is not disfiguring, it is sexy, to men.  As ANewLife says, your cousin is too young to know any of this, it hasn't happened to her yet.  Any in fact, I hope you don't have occasion to find out how a man reacts to labia for a long time, either.

Discharge is just the vagina cleaning itself.  It puts out about a quarter teaspoon a day, and the flow of the discharge keeps the vagina a bacteria-free and clean environment.  This is why women are counseled not to douche, the vagina is self-cleaning and has a proper balance inside it to keep it healthy, and douches can upset this.

Take care of yourself.  There are some good educational websites written for teens and preteens, you might read up on these questions if you can't talk to your mom.  As the other posters say, talking to Mom is often best, but if she gives advice like your aunt does, you should probably also be reading up.  (For what it is worth, I could not have talked to my mom about such things, she got so embarrassed it was like talking to a Victorian grandma.)  But if your mom is cool, she's the one to discuss things with.

It is also OK to use tampons.  They will not cause your insides to come out.

All the best, honey.

Annie

[ANewLife4Me]

I agree with Gina that you should talk to your mother about these things.  Being that you are only 13 years old, you are still growing and your body will change and mature greatly over the next few years.  If you are having questions about what is going on, it would be a good idea to go to somebody that you can trust so you can get real and truthful answers.  I don't think you can become deformed by pulling a tampon out.
You'll find that a lot of body parts may be slightly different, meaning one of your breats may be bigger than the other, or your feet, hands, etc. and it's normal.
I'm thinking that you have nothing to worry about and that it's not "ugly" or "not normal".  If your cousin is the same age as you, she may not be aware at that age what is normal either.  So please, relax and if you have questions, please talk to your Mother, she will be glad went to her :)

[Gina04]

You really should talk to your mom about it if possible.  Discharge is very normal.  If you absolutely can't talk to your mom about this (though you should really try to), getting checked out by a doctor should set your mind at ease.