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LARGE MONS PUBIS
HELP. i've a large pubic bone and fat mons pubis. if i wear bicycle pants or something a bit tight it doesnt look like a regular mound.it looks like i have b*lls. i think its because my pubic bone is high. and my mons is really plump and fat, not like a usual mound. others often make fun of me, they say i’m actually a man, that i’m not normal, that i’m disgusting, etc. and when i walk in a bikini or swimsuit in the beach or the swimming pool, i can feel people staring DOWN,once, there was even a group of girls and some boys actually giggling about it. its really uncomfortable. it looks really round, fat and it protrudes outwards. and i’m not overweight AT ALL, but that section is damn fat.i’m 18 and im not sexually active, im embarassed. what do you think should be done? surgery’s my last option..
Has anyone had the actual mons reduction SURGERY,where they cut you not lipo you,and the labia majora reduction surgery to go with it?????inquiring minds would LOVE to know!
Well girl,its been about a week since your post-any changes since then??How badly did the surgery hurt and are you still hurting or having anything abnormal happen? If youve noticed,the few ladies on here who have posted that theyve had surgery have not exactly went into too many details.I WANT AS MANY AS YOU CAN THROW AT US,that is,if you dont mind LOL.PLEEEEASE share EVERYTHING that youd like to,as you may be one of only a handful of ladies on the entire web with the courage to do so.Ive googled and looked and looked for hours and hours over several yrs with barely any information or commentary about the surgery-i think any and all info that you could provide would help sooooooooo many women like us-and it could help them decide no they actually dont want to go that route or give others on the fence the courage to go for it.Does it hurt EXCRUTIATINGLY when you come right out of surgery? Did you have your labia majora reduced as well and do you see a major difference in the whole thing?Who was your dr so that other ladies may consult him if they wish to have the surgery? i dont mean to ask so many questions and/or be so pushy im just asking what i think MANY MANY ladies are dying to know!
I'm not alone! Ah what a relief! I thought I was some sorta freak or something was wrong with me. I'm 21 and weigh 145lbs. I thought that if I lost weight that it'd just go away or the size would reduce but that didn't happen.. I've never worn bikini bottoms and I always get asked why I don't and why I always swim in swimming shorts, it gets so hard to keep making up lies to tell even my best friends. It's just embarrassing to me. My husband has never said anything about it before so I'm guessing he doesn't mind. I can't even wear sexy clothes for him. Ugh! I wish I was more confident about my body and just not care. People shouldn't be so judgmental about something we can't help (unless you have thousands to spend on surgery... I don't! Lol) everyone here who is going through what I am has really helped me. I'm glad I'm not the only one! :)
7 DAYS POST OP !!
To everyone who is considering surgery, i am 7 days post op and im pleased with my results already, even though i am still swollen at this early stage. I know exactly how you all feel, everything you have described i can relate to.
Its fine for people to say - learn to love yourself, men find it attractive, yes you are normal, you should be proud of it, blah blah blah ! well i know it might make us ladies feel better at that specific moment in time, but when the time comes for intimacy, you go try on certain clothes, want to go swimming etc reality comes crashing back down on you, and then you are back to square one, feeling bad about yourself all over again, i have been feeling that way since about the age of 12 and im now 29.
I have had 3 consultations with surgeons over the past 6 years about what can be done but never had the courage to go through with it until now.
I ended up having to have liposuction of the fatty pad/mons pubis and also skin excision to remove the left over excess skin so it would be flatter and lifted. I have never been over weight and my stomach has always been flat, and no matter what people tell you there is no way of losing weight in that area, the only option is surgery of some sort. I had to pay privately for my surgery as this type of procedure is not available on NHS which i think is really wrong, if someone has small breasts and they feel masculine they get free breast implants, yet something like this which also makes women feel masculine would get no help at all, it doesn't make sense to me.
I really feel for all of you, im so glad i have finally gone through with the surgery and got rid of it, i have actually booked a summer holiday already, i cant wait to be able to wear a bikini and tight shorts ! something which i have never done before purely because of the fat area "down there".
Anyway, if anyone has any questions i would be happy to help if i can.
To everyone who is considering surgery, i am 7 days post op and im pleased with my results already, even though i am still swollen at this early stage. I know exactly how you all feel, everything you have described i can relate to.
Its fine for people to say - learn to love yourself, men find it attractive, yes you are normal, you should be proud of it, blah blah blah ! well i know it might make us ladies feel better at that specific moment in time, but when the time comes for intimacy, you go try on certain clothes, want to go swimming etc reality comes crashing back down on you, and then you are back to square one, feeling bad about yourself all over again, i have been feeling that way since about the age of 12 and im now 29.
I have had 3 consultations with surgeons over the past 6 years about what can be done but never had the courage to go through with it until now.
I ended up having to have liposuction of the fatty pad/mons pubis and also skin excision to remove the left over excess skin so it would be flatter and lifted. I have never been over weight and my stomach has always been flat, and no matter what people tell you there is no way of losing weight in that area, the only option is surgery of some sort. I had to pay privately for my surgery as this type of procedure is not available on NHS which i think is really wrong, if someone has small breasts and they feel masculine they get free breast implants, yet something like this which also makes women feel masculine would get no help at all, it doesn't make sense to me.
I really feel for all of you, im so glad i have finally gone through with the surgery and got rid of it, i have actually booked a summer holiday already, i cant wait to be able to wear a bikini and tight shorts ! something which i have never done before purely because of the fat area "down there".
Anyway, if anyone has any questions i would be happy to help if i can.
I felt the same way when I was your age, don't worry about it, you're not weird.
Just alike a lot of the stuff people your age hate about their body (acne, greasy hair, stuff like that), I promise it looks about a million times worse to you than it would to someone who feels the same way about mon pubises.
We're our own toughest critics. I've been trying to find a way to stop myself from being so critical of myself, but I haven't done it yet. It really helps to remember that no ones as tough on us as we are on ourselves, though.
(also, my weight has fluctuated a LOT of the years, so mine has gotten bigger and smaller ... and having a fatter mons pubis definitly adds something to sex. I'm not say go have sex! Just that there ARE perks.)
Just alike a lot of the stuff people your age hate about their body (acne, greasy hair, stuff like that), I promise it looks about a million times worse to you than it would to someone who feels the same way about mon pubises.
We're our own toughest critics. I've been trying to find a way to stop myself from being so critical of myself, but I haven't done it yet. It really helps to remember that no ones as tough on us as we are on ourselves, though.
(also, my weight has fluctuated a LOT of the years, so mine has gotten bigger and smaller ... and having a fatter mons pubis definitly adds something to sex. I'm not say go have sex! Just that there ARE perks.)
I also have a large one...
...but I don't mind!
It's good for balancing laptops and beer cans on, and my boyfriend actually really LIKES it! A lot of guys do, actually. It's one of those places where fat=fertility, like your boobs and butt. So as long as it's not saggy, they're programmed to find it attractive - though I doubt most of them consciously know it.
LADIES! It is NOT ugly! Personally I think women with smooth flat crotches look a little weird...like barbie dolls.
And as for bikinis...you're right, you can't wear all of them. But that doesn't mean you can't wear ANY of them! Like all clothes, different cuts are flattering to different figures. Just try on a bunch of different ones! (hint-angles and sharp corners are not your friends - go for rounded cuts with low and small leg holes)
And surgery - I'm not anti-surgery at all, but think how much it hurts to get pinched or bruised down there. Now multiply that by a hundred. Ouch!
And one more thing to think about:
All of you seem really surprised that so many people feel the same way. I bet a bunch of people you know in real life feel it too. Have you noticed a large mons pubis on them? They probably haven't noticed it on you, either.
...but I don't mind!
It's good for balancing laptops and beer cans on, and my boyfriend actually really LIKES it! A lot of guys do, actually. It's one of those places where fat=fertility, like your boobs and butt. So as long as it's not saggy, they're programmed to find it attractive - though I doubt most of them consciously know it.
LADIES! It is NOT ugly! Personally I think women with smooth flat crotches look a little weird...like barbie dolls.
And as for bikinis...you're right, you can't wear all of them. But that doesn't mean you can't wear ANY of them! Like all clothes, different cuts are flattering to different figures. Just try on a bunch of different ones! (hint-angles and sharp corners are not your friends - go for rounded cuts with low and small leg holes)
And surgery - I'm not anti-surgery at all, but think how much it hurts to get pinched or bruised down there. Now multiply that by a hundred. Ouch!
And one more thing to think about:
All of you seem really surprised that so many people feel the same way. I bet a bunch of people you know in real life feel it too. Have you noticed a large mons pubis on them? They probably haven't noticed it on you, either.
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