I agree whole heartedly with drussell247. I hope things get better for you. Best wishes, Sissie
First I'd like to ask how long have you been married? Then I'd like to ask what type of sickness does your husband have? If he is mobile and shows any type of interest at all, I would consider you two having a serious conversation about your physical needs. If he is not in a position to understand or compromise with you, then I would tell you that I understand that we are all human, and we all need what we need. You must love your husband very much to have gone 7 years without sex - that's a very long time and you've been very patient. I would seek counseling with a psychologist to help you through any issues that may be bogging you down, and sex outside of a marriage is not something I would recommend. I think first and foremost is to try to bring your husband around to discuss some other options where you can still be intimate with each other. You never know what he may be thinking.