Outlook after genital HSV-1

Hi Everyone:

I was recently diagnosed with Genital HSV-1 by viral culture last month. I've been through some crazy emotional up and downs since this diagnosis. I received it after one episode of oral sex from a guy with absolutely no history of cold sores. It really came as a shock because we both got tested before becoming intimate, but of course, we all now know that it's not tested for on a panel. My question is, how many outbreaks have people had since their dx of ghsv-1? I'm also wondering how the heck this could've been avoided, short of using a dental dam. I mean, I'm sure most people won't get an HSV-1 IgG on their partner before being intimate. And even if it was positive, say from a childhood infection, I doubt that would deter most people. Sorry for all the questions, I'm actually a medical student who teaches sex ed and wants to be an ob/gyn (the irony is unbearable...lol), and I really wouldn't know what to tell someone about HSV screening.

I really don't know what to expect and I'm really afraid of transmitting this to anyone else. Do most people go on suppression therapy? I'd like to eventually get married/have kids and so I'm hoping that there's still some way I can have unprotected sex without infecting my partner. I really appreciate any advice anyone can offer!

Thanks,
jj