hubby and video games

[mommy27]

Okay---I am 28 yrs. old and have been married for 9 years. My husband and I have 3 beautiful kids. The problem is my husband bought the dreaded xbox360 when it first came out. He was really great as far as playing it but he didn't have xbox live yet either. He got hooked up with live this year in Feb. and became obsessed!! He works in the oil field so he's off a week and on a week. On his off time, all he does is play the stupid xbox! He plays from the time he gets up to the time he goes to bed! We don't have sex anymore b/c he can't seem to get off long enough to spend time with me. He gets upset if u walk in front of the t.v. (God forbid he die on the game!). He got real good about playing only after the kids and I went to bed. BUT, Halo 3 came out Monday night at midnight. He went to the store to get it (at midnight) and played all night long. Now, all he plays is that game. I hate the xbox so much. I hate looking at it. I hate hearing it. I just HATE it! He says that I stay on the computer all the time, but that's b/c he plays video games all the time and I have nothing else to do. When the kids are here, we practice their sports and do school work. But when they are at school, I do stay on the computer b/c I'm bored. He did agree to do "family night" on Friday nights. We eat popcorn and watch movies with the kids which is great. But after they go to bed, it's game time! Am I being to needy? Should I back off a little? Any advice as to what I can do to get him to understand that xbox is consuming him would be nice. He claims that he can go a day without playing but I haven't seen that yet. I need advice. Thanks!

[Crystlas]

Cool, no more arguing.  Your opinion is yours and mine is mine.  Just know I would never have worded my original post that way on a thread that had addicts in it.  This one did not so I felt ok about it.

[Prince85]

Thanks a million for your SHORTENED verson of explaination.

My final say on this is, that the name of this thread clearly means that it is about people addicted to video games. All I am trying to finaly convey is, that on this kind of a forum no one should try at nany cost to encourage people to play games. I agree you have explained to people the benefits of being a responsible gamer, thatz it, full stop, you should never end your message by a statemnt which urges people who r addicted & people who r not addicted, to go and play a game. Trust me, your artcicle/ comment/ opinion was truly an amazing & motivating one, but the final statement of the article I guess got things messed up.

But I guess letz do something, maybe itz not right for me to force my opinion on you. You have given me your opinion & justification & I have also conveyed my point of view to you.

You are right in your ways & probably I am right in my way.

Hope your weekend is going on well.

Take care.

Cheers!!

[FreeSpirit4Life]

This is kinda funny not ur situation but what I did and now hearing ur situation so my hubby and I were bickering about dumb stuff. So I suggested he get a game system to occupy some time and u know cool off after work. He said he thought video games were dumb and a waste of time i waited a few weeks nothing changed so my little bro is a total gamer i mean computer nerd  x box total opposite of me but im getting it now my hubby also hates sports I love them were opposites to ok im spacing off subject sorry so I went and got the original nintendo nes from my brother from when we were kids and braught it home he thaught it was dumb it sat for 1 day LOL......... and now hes on zelda like crazy but we dont bicker women r so smart lol..... If I want him off I pitch a fit but not all the time just when its been 8 hrs and im like common now r u kidding me and when he tells me im on the computer 2 long I simply reply now isnt that the pot calling the kettle black or ur a hipacrit but babe if u wantme off ill get off 4 u, reverse psycology. I also sit and watch or even play with him its fun I would just rather him be on there then at a bar or watching tv because are daughter plays with him and getts daddy time verses watching HIS shows and acting out to get his attention now he was a little upset when the game was allmost beat and she erased it but thats an old system 4 ya lol..... but try some of these it worked 4 me I turned it in 2 a pos and not a neg but some of the newer gamesr really violent I dont know much about them I like the old school ones maybe suggest these there really cheap 2 only 2 dollers a game at pawn shops thats chump change these days for a game
          goodluck my girl friend has the same prob but she wont try anything different

[Crystlas]

Dude, you are getting way off topic and I will explain my intentions one more time.  I mentioned that there are responsible gamers and that I was going to go enjoy my game. BIG DEAL!!  It did not harm anyone what-so-ever.  This thread is NOT and I stress NOT for gaming addicts, but it is about gaming addicts IN THEIR ABSENCE!!  If addicts were writing on this thread it would be a whole different story and I would be on the same page with you on your opinion.  Ok, last time to explain it and a shortened version, so hopefully you will understand.  

[Prince85]

"teasers"

That was the exact term for the statement about getting back to playing a game that you had mentioned in your comment a few days ago.Also I fail to understand on why did you mention that this thread is not for game aaddicts. Please this thread is meant for game addicts.

Also yes you are exactly right in mentioning how responsible gamer you are. Infact if you check out my comment on this page, wherein I have clearly mentioned that I have even gone to the extent of instaling a few games on my work computer, but I have also stated how responsible I am & I only play it when I get an opportunity to do so, & while doing that I make sure that it does not harm my personal or professional life.

So I agree with you that there is no harm in stating how should a person be responsible about playing his or her games without the personal or professional life being affected, but at no cost can this website tolerate "teasers"..

Please once again let me clarify, that I respect your opinion, but would never be able to accepts "teasers" at any cost.

So now today I have another interesting example for you..

Imagine that you have got to a forum which discourages the act where in a senior student rags his or her junior back at school. Then I guess there ur opinion wud be, ' As long as a junior student is ragged in a way that does hurt his or her personal feelings, then it is fine as long as it is safe'. And further after you adding more explaination I am sure you would end your opinion with the following statement' WELL AT THE MOMENT I AM ON MY LAPTOP BACK AT SCHOOL & I SEE SOME JUNIORS PASSING BY ME, SO LET ME GO & RAG THEM NOW.'

Please please please you should never consider to ever end any of your opinion or coment with that negative note. Incase your keen on doing such things, atleast do it without an advance announcement in the forum, because eventhough you may do things or in other words for example rag your junior in a way which would not hurt the student, I dont think all this would be taken in a positive way by everyone & everyone would have their opinion on how u would rag your junior.

I hope I was clear enough to convey my message to you with this example.

Thank you.

Cheers!!

[SquirreliciousAngel]

Oh Ladies!!!

You have further solidified my decision to never allow a gaming machine in my apartment/house! I don't know how you ladies deal with having a man who is addicted to the gaming systems like a child, it would drive me NUTS!


best of luck to all of you
~S.A.