hubby and video games

[mommy27]

Okay---I am 28 yrs. old and have been married for 9 years. My husband and I have 3 beautiful kids. The problem is my husband bought the dreaded xbox360 when it first came out. He was really great as far as playing it but he didn't have xbox live yet either. He got hooked up with live this year in Feb. and became obsessed!! He works in the oil field so he's off a week and on a week. On his off time, all he does is play the stupid xbox! He plays from the time he gets up to the time he goes to bed! We don't have sex anymore b/c he can't seem to get off long enough to spend time with me. He gets upset if u walk in front of the t.v. (God forbid he die on the game!). He got real good about playing only after the kids and I went to bed. BUT, Halo 3 came out Monday night at midnight. He went to the store to get it (at midnight) and played all night long. Now, all he plays is that game. I hate the xbox so much. I hate looking at it. I hate hearing it. I just HATE it! He says that I stay on the computer all the time, but that's b/c he plays video games all the time and I have nothing else to do. When the kids are here, we practice their sports and do school work. But when they are at school, I do stay on the computer b/c I'm bored. He did agree to do "family night" on Friday nights. We eat popcorn and watch movies with the kids which is great. But after they go to bed, it's game time! Am I being to needy? Should I back off a little? Any advice as to what I can do to get him to understand that xbox is consuming him would be nice. He claims that he can go a day without playing but I haven't seen that yet. I need advice. Thanks!

[Cosmogal]

My apologies. When I made that statement it was because of a few couples that I know of that have that problem. They will play till like 4 in the morning and think nothing of it. Kids raise themselves. There houses are a mess and they are overweight as well. All they do is game game game. It is just an obsession for some. It should be entertainment but some people just don't  think of it that way. There whole world revolves around it. One guy has been jobless and I think he hasn't even bother looking. He is on all day long. I just don't get that. You sound very intelligent and know enough not to let it control your life. That is how my husband is and that is much healthier.
Paula

[Crystlas]

Yeah, I saw that before I posted, but the game bashing got under my skin and I had to speak out!

[Crystlas]

AMEN!!  Thank you for your logical support.  Games are nothing but toys.  You play with the toy, then you put it away when it is time.  If gaming addicts would look at it that way, they might not be so addicted.  Everything in moderation.  It is like anything.  One can have a drink or two, ever so often...or someone can have a drink or two and never stop..hence alcoholism.  Just another example of addiction.  Gaming is alot safer than drugs or alcohol.  I jokingly call my newest gaming passion World or Warcrack as a way of saying geez..this could get out of hand for some, but I am responsible with it.  If I do have a day with no one around and nothing to do, it can become an "addict" day where I spend my day with WOW, however those days are far and few between.  And like you said, I am usually home with a cold and under the weather when that happens.  Me, WOW, some chicken noodle soup and a can of sprite.  

[Crystlas]

I am a neat freak with a very clean household.  I also exercise several days a week.  

[Crystlas]

IF YOU CLEARLY READ MY POST I WAS IN TOTAL SUPPORT OF MOMMY27.  I ONLY game after I have done other things.  Life is MUCH more important to me than spending all of my time on a game.  I ONLY play WOW in the evenings and sometimes on the weekends when I do not have plans with family or friends, which ALWAYS comes first!!!!!!!!!!  I will admit, when I first started playing the game last summer, I did spend more time with it, BUT if anyone in my life needed me I PUT THEM FIRST.  I am angry by your post to me.  FOR YOUR INFORMATION, last night when I posted on here I had spent a very productive NON-gaming day doing things like hmmm.....spending time with my fiance, working, cooking dinner and going to two meetings.  Geez,,, am I that addicted to WOW, I think not.  I was just in support that there are responsible gamers out in the world, like me.  I have never abused gaming and I started playing D&D when I was 11, I am now 33.  Mommy27's husband is an addict, he is abusing gaming.  Lots of people on this thread were bashing gamers and I wanted to share that there are gamers that have fulfilling lives too, like me and my fiance.  So, I do believe you had NO RIGHT to bash me.

[mayflowers]

The original poster is from Sept 2007.  She has probably moved on by now.