HELP I AM SCARED !!!!!!!!

[magrat]

I just recently found out my daughter is taking Oxy, Roxy, Hydrocodone Perc's and if she dont have enough money($15 $20 and some $40) for these she gets the methadone. My daughter is 27 with 4 children 1,2,5 & 10. She started this about 6 mos. ago. Mind you this was my little girl who preached against this. Hated it! Formed her own JUST SAY NO GROUP! This was all thru school and up to last year hated drugs and what they stood for and wouldnt even take a Midol on her worst day! This is 1 of the worst days of my life! She denied it when I confronted her after 1 of her friends called me and told me YOU GOT TO DO SOMETHING! THATS WHY I AM TELLING YOU! SHE IS GOING TO KILL HERSELF BY O D OR THEM BABIES ARE GONNA GET HURT. So I talked to my 10 yr old grandson & he told me her boyfriend does drugs! But his mom dont! He said well she might because I heard her ask him how many pills he took he said 3 and then ask her and she said 1! He also told me she leaves him @ night with the 3 kids and says she'll be right back! I have them all right now! I told her I would keep them for the weekend! I want to keep them until she straightens up! He also told me that sometimes these  2 people stay with them (differ times) I know for sure they are on CRACK!!!!! if they want to go out but alot of times he keeps the kids! I GUESS WHAT I AM GETTING AT IS SHOULD I CALL DCF AND REPORT THIS BECAUSE SHE DENIES IT AND I DONT WANT THESE BABIES GOING HOME!! He told me they have no food sometimes the waters turned off for days because her boyfriend is useless and not worth the gun powder to shoot him with had every job and quit! Then he just lives off her child support with her. He doesnt mind her working hes just not gonna babysit! She doesnt work either because her check would go to daycare! UUUUGGGGHH!  I AM JUST DEVASTATED AND SO CRUSHED FOR HER ( By having this addiction) but she is grown but FOR MY GRANDBABIES CANNOT GO THRU 1 MORE DAY OF THIS! I ALSO FOUND OUT THE FATHER OF 2 OF HER KIDS HAS BEEN DOING COCAINE PILLS AND SMOKES WEED! NOW LOOK AT HER? My grandson is also very protective of his mom. But she told him if he tells anyone that she left him there with the babies HE WILL NEVER SEE HIS GRANNIE AND POP AGAIN OR HER OR HIS DAD! THAT DCF WILL COME IN AND PUT THEM IN A HOME WITH SOMEONE THEY DONT KNOW! I TOLD MY GRANDSON I AM SORRY SHE TOLD YOU THAT BUT GRANNIE AND POP WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR BROTHERS! PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE? I am not trying to be stupid but what I am trying to say is do we talk to her or DCF and keep the kids with us? By the way 2 of my grandsons dad travels with his job and takes care of them financially above and beyond but isnt somebody you can talk sensibly to about this because of his anger issues.

[kim715]

We did it this way.First we approached it very calm although it was hard ,at least for me,knowing the things my grandaughter had told me.I just wanted to reach out and touch her,you know what I mean?We explained to her we knew she had a problem and that we wanted to help her,which is absolutely the truth.At first we just wanted to keep the kids and help her get into rehab and do what we needed to do to help put her family back together.We explained how the kids were suffering because of her addiction.At first that worked for a few days and I called around and had to beg and plead to get her a bed at an inpatient rehab.She is abusing crack and heroin.We tried to get in touch with her for 2 weeks,by that time the bed was gone.She never returned our messages that we left with her idiot friends.The next time we heard from her was about 3 1/2 weeks later and she called collect from the county jail ,she had been picked up for prostitution.She wanted money and we wouldn't give her any.At the time we didn't have it anyway.I had to leave my job to stay home with the girls.Thats when she tried to blackmail us and said if we wouldn't help her she was taking the kids back when she got out.So next we threatened her.We had alot of dirt on her.The things the 4 year old had told us,police reports,ads off of a website with her half naked picture on them solicitating men for sex.That held her off for a while,but eventually she called our bluff and we had no choice but to turn her in.I don't think it ever would have crossed her mind that we would really do it,but there was NO WAY she was getting these kids back in the condition she was and still is in.As far as the doctors and things go,see what route your going to have to take first.If you do have to go the DCF route,then  if it works where your at like it does here until there is a formal custody hearing,mostly this would pertain to the 2 younger children,the kids sort of become wards of DCF but DCF has allowed you to take temporary custody of them so you would have the proper paperwork to get them treated.As far as the older 2 go the father can sign over temporary custody to you and you can do that yourself just by drawing something up and going and having it notorized.Try being nice first and I know that won't be hard.I'm sure from your posts that you love your daughter and would love to help her get well,but if she pushes then you push back.You're absolutely right those babies need grannie and pop to protect them at all costs.

[magrat]

I thank you for everything and I will let you know what happens! Thank you for everything! God bless you! I will be back I have to get some sleep the boys have a birthday party at 1:00. I didnt realize what time it is! YIKES! I will check back! Again thank you so much!!!

[magrat]

Thank you so much for listening the guidance and definitely the prayers! God bless you! I will let you know what transpires. I guess i better go they got a birthday party to go to at 1:00. Pop gets the early shift today. I will have to sleep a couple hours LOL!  Again thank you!

[10356]

I will pray for you your husband your grand kids and your daughter You sound focused and be assured you are doing the right thing..Lesa

[magrat]

Do you think if I threaten her it will work? I am just thinking liability. Like bless their heart what if they had to go to the doc or got hurt? How would that work? Could I take them? Bless your heart you sure have gone thru it! My heart aches for you but the babies are safe. I always tell my grandbabies thats what grandparents are ANGELS TO WATCH OVER AND PROTECT! Now LOOK THEY SURE NEED GRANNIE AND POP NOW! Do you think I should try to just tell her first? I just dont want them going back for 1 blink of an eye in that lifestyle!!! I mean will it work or try it and if not call the police?

[magrat]

YOU BETTER BELIEVE I WILL EVERY LITTLE THING!