HELP I AM SCARED !!!!!!!!

[magrat]

I just recently found out my daughter is taking Oxy, Roxy, Hydrocodone Perc's and if she dont have enough money($15 $20 and some $40) for these she gets the methadone. My daughter is 27 with 4 children 1,2,5 & 10. She started this about 6 mos. ago. Mind you this was my little girl who preached against this. Hated it! Formed her own JUST SAY NO GROUP! This was all thru school and up to last year hated drugs and what they stood for and wouldnt even take a Midol on her worst day! This is 1 of the worst days of my life! She denied it when I confronted her after 1 of her friends called me and told me YOU GOT TO DO SOMETHING! THATS WHY I AM TELLING YOU! SHE IS GOING TO KILL HERSELF BY O D OR THEM BABIES ARE GONNA GET HURT. So I talked to my 10 yr old grandson & he told me her boyfriend does drugs! But his mom dont! He said well she might because I heard her ask him how many pills he took he said 3 and then ask her and she said 1! He also told me she leaves him @ night with the 3 kids and says she'll be right back! I have them all right now! I told her I would keep them for the weekend! I want to keep them until she straightens up! He also told me that sometimes these  2 people stay with them (differ times) I know for sure they are on CRACK!!!!! if they want to go out but alot of times he keeps the kids! I GUESS WHAT I AM GETTING AT IS SHOULD I CALL DCF AND REPORT THIS BECAUSE SHE DENIES IT AND I DONT WANT THESE BABIES GOING HOME!! He told me they have no food sometimes the waters turned off for days because her boyfriend is useless and not worth the gun powder to shoot him with had every job and quit! Then he just lives off her child support with her. He doesnt mind her working hes just not gonna babysit! She doesnt work either because her check would go to daycare! UUUUGGGGHH!  I AM JUST DEVASTATED AND SO CRUSHED FOR HER ( By having this addiction) but she is grown but FOR MY GRANDBABIES CANNOT GO THRU 1 MORE DAY OF THIS! I ALSO FOUND OUT THE FATHER OF 2 OF HER KIDS HAS BEEN DOING COCAINE PILLS AND SMOKES WEED! NOW LOOK AT HER? My grandson is also very protective of his mom. But she told him if he tells anyone that she left him there with the babies HE WILL NEVER SEE HIS GRANNIE AND POP AGAIN OR HER OR HIS DAD! THAT DCF WILL COME IN AND PUT THEM IN A HOME WITH SOMEONE THEY DONT KNOW! I TOLD MY GRANDSON I AM SORRY SHE TOLD YOU THAT BUT GRANNIE AND POP WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR BROTHERS! PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE? I am not trying to be stupid but what I am trying to say is do we talk to her or DCF and keep the kids with us? By the way 2 of my grandsons dad travels with his job and takes care of them financially above and beyond but isnt somebody you can talk sensibly to about this because of his anger issues.

[10356]

Most addicts will deny they have a problem. I'm so sorry that you also are going through this. Addiction affects everyone around them. You are a wise woman to protect the oldest he needs a confidant..

[wannabefree330]

I am sorry to hear about your situation.  You are truly a great and strong person for being there for those kids.  They need you more than ever right now.  My mind is at peace knowing they are safe with you.  I think it is so unfair for a 10 yr old to have to keep tabs on mom like that, but an addict has absolutely no control.  It is the drugs that are controlling your daughter right now, but it doesn't always have to be that way.  The best thing for her, I think, is to get DFS involved.  I would hope that they will allow the children to stay with you.  It will hopefully be what she needs to open her eyes and turn her away from the road she is headed down.  Stay strong.  We are here for you!

[magrat]

See I am scared if I tell her I am keeping them SHE will bring attitude!! What I was saying is should I talk till I am blue in the face or call DCF because I dont want them going back home to this! Will it do me anymore good 2 even talk 2 her? She also gets food stamps but my grandson said they have no food!! Now mind you I kave 3 girls and we are all close! Or at least I thought so! I never for any reason even thought until recently something was wrong!

[magrat]

Yes I ask her if she was on anything and she denied it! I told her well something isnt right with you because you are not acting the same. I also told her I know something is going on with you! I have been nice loving and broken hearted of which I really really am!!! Then I tried the firm your full of **** attitude! She denied it. I didnt tell her my grandson said anything because he will pay the price for that! I am sure if she told him these other things! I am just completely dying inside for my grandbabies!! They are so precious and innocent and they cant tend to themselves!

[10356]

I have just reread your post You are doing the right thing by taking your grand babies I agree they are in a dangerous situation.. Is the only money coming in from support? The reason i ask this is to keep the babies and let her know that they will not be returned until she sets things right in her life If not I really don"t see where you have much choice but to turn her in.
I do not say this lightly but from what you describe they are living in a very dangerous and volatile situation Their are a lot of different drugs and people involved and your 10 year old grandson knows a lot of what is going on.. The water and food are bad enough my heart goes out to those precious babies..

[10356]

I'm so sorry to read your post as a Mom myself I could not think of anything more terrifying Have you spoken to your daughter about what you had found out