my opinion-- stay on the vikes until your grandson leaves....you should sort of "plan" withdrawal, like having a "flu" when you have nothing to do...
I hope that you are taking chantix under your doctor supervision because you have just said that you can not take antidepressants and chantix was initially made as a sort of prozac and then used as an antismoking help .....i can be very wrong about chantix as i am only speaking from what i remember from reading the brochure and the warnings... but check about chantix and antidepressants
you are taking it with your doctor knowledge , right ? :)
Good Morning,
Today is Monday and my grandson is up and having breakfast. He had anothr rough morning and early afternoon yesterday. Then all of a sudden he was his usual happy, little self. I think his molars have totally come through his gums so now he is feeling a little better. He was all cuddly with us late afternoon and then was nicely playing and being funny. It was the perfect ending to a kinda crazy weekend. So I will be giving him a bath soon, getting him dressed, packing up all of his stuff and making sure his new haircut (that I gave him-lol) looks perfect so his Mom will be pleased. She really misses him after 5 days without him. My daughter is in denial that she is a very highly-functioning alcoholic. So is her husband. I have talked to her about it years ago (she is 35 now) and she admitted she probably was, and then a day later said she isn't. My sister is also an active alcoholic. If anyone is living in the past it is my sister. She is the one who found our father dead in the family garage and she can't get over it. I suggested she go to counseling, she won't. I asked her to just go to ONE AA meeting with me, as a "guest" and she won't do that either. She said she is not ready to quit. I now realize I have made suggestions, but I am not the boss of my family. They will do what they will do. My main responsibility has to be to me and my soberiety, for without I will be dead in the water so to speak. I have to set a truthful example to my family that it is possible to live sober. I did admit to my sister that I had a few slips since first going to AA in February. She said- yeah, so big deal. Well, it is a big deal. At some point, and I am at that point after this weekend, that I am done with the slips. I gotta get a sponsor asap and learn to call if I feel i might drink. When I drank this weekend I actually seemed to be "present in the moment" compared to be a zombie and not thinking about what I was doing when i was heavily drinking. I realized I don't even like alcohol! My addiction of course did not want to hear that one, so I did drink those few drinks. But with each sip I was actually thinking for once. I realized I lost the person I used to be, and even that person wasn't exactly the poster child for integrity and responsibility. I realized that I still have been behaving like a little kid that doesn't want to do there homework. Today has to be the day I start acting like what I am- a grown woman. To Pomolady- thanks for your responses. I am a little confused as to what you mean by my addiction can't come here. How am I supposed to get help and support on here if I can't talk about my addiction? Can I talk about my what I am doing to get better? Really, I am confused. If I don't (well, I already did) talk about my past, how will you get to know me? My husband tells me I am the nicest person he knows. I am nice! I treat every person how I would like to be treated...with respect, and kindness and compassion. I have to start treating myself the same way! :) One by one I am taking stock of things I want to change about myself. One thing is this smoking AND chewing gum at the same time. So I start the medication Chantix today. I have anxiety and panic disorder that can be close to disabling at times. My husband is unable to find work (almost 2 years now) and I really want to go out and try to find a job to help. I get a pension and we are almost able to squeak by on that alone. But he or I need to get a job to make ends meet. I have applied for four jobs now and each time have had a panic attack and was unable to follow through. As people may know by reading my posts I also have bipolar disorder. I am hoping by staying away from booze and pills that these things will improve. I have daily low-grade depression despite mood stabilizers. I cannot take anti-depressants because of the bipolar. Another good reason to break out the treadmill. Working out really does relieve anxiety and help you not feel so depressed. I also have to work really really hard on my negativity. I have a cartoon hanging up on my fridge where a doctor goes in and tells the patient, "You have tested positive for being negative". That is basically me. I have a really dry, good sense of humor for the most part. It runs in our Irish family. I think that has saved my a$$ quite a few times. Since I have suffered some major deep dark depressions over my life, I now know that no matter how bad I may get depressed, that there is alway light at the end of the tunnel. I will never ever give up on myself! If I have to fall down a million times, I will get back up a million times. I always have and always will. Well, time to get my grandson ready to go back home. :(
Hi gsheps :) welcome here
we all come here with our addictions, don't get discouraged please, we think we can't and this is one of the lies of active addiction... there is always something that keep us using but you are taking the right steps to build up your confidence... keep up reading posts and getting support, we come here to find support no matter how bad we feel our addiction is, we will always be addicts but we can be happy again by working on our recovery...the mental part is the hardest so fill yourself with positive thoughts even if you don't quite believe on them,... all the work will finally pay off :)
YOU CAN DO IT TOO... make yourself believe it :)
To Vicki ....Love it enough said.
To Teresa, unfotunetly I don't think Gsheps gets it, that's all I have not doubt that some part of her wants to get sober but her addiction is so big right now it's taken over and it's fighting the good fight.......
Gsheps.....I don't know you at all but from what I can tell I have been reading posts from you addiction on here and the people on here would like to get to know the real you. NOT your addiction, she is scared that you don't need her anymore and dosen't want to let her go. Go ahead and let her know that you have friends on here that want to spend time with you and she can't come. This is a place of healing and vulnerability and your addiction just cant come. I would love to get to know you but leave your addiction outta this place. Be Blessed!
gsheps~
"Doers do and tryers try".
Good luck~