I've been so hesitant to ask for opinions on this, but...

[Jacqui805]

Oh God, I can't believe I'm gonna do this....may sound trivial to some, but for me, with all that's happened to me regarding poor treatment, it's not.  A couple weeks ago, some of you may remember the "state" I was in.  I could not stand not sleeping anymore, along with the severe anxiety, all from the w/d.  I was right in the middle of switching docs., and the one I'm going to see, who's been actually helping me with my health issue, swears the one I did see is as much of a putz as I think she is, and has been negligent with me.  She sat on her butt all the while I was getting sicker and sicker, and now some of this damage may be permanent.  Anyway, here's the issue at hand..

She was my doc. at the time two weeks ago, although I had not seen her since '06 (she had me on the med.).  I called out of desperation to get some relief, and, she obliged, but had her nurse have me set up an appt. with her.  I made that appt. for two weeks from then, which falls tomorrow.  Like an axe, for me.  I'm petrified of her.  It's not a doc./pt. thing so much as it being pis*ed off at her, knowing she's not done o.k. by me, ignored problems that others docs. picked up, and wouldn't take their advice, or listen to me plead to send me to The Mayo Clinic.  I loathe her, and I am going to see a new doc. within two weeks.  I'm also afraid I will not be able to hide my contempt for her, and afraid of the venom I might spew.  Trouble is, I feel "obligated" to go for the one time visit because she prescribed me the "help" to get through the end of the w/d.  I've been counting down every day, and sweating out tomorrow.  I'm so embarrassed to be putting this here, but I am not sure what to do.  Fear can mess my thinking up in the worst way.  Any suggestions?

Jacqui

[Jacqui805]

Thanks.  I've handled it now, and feel better for having done so.  I know I will eventually need to see her face to face, to get it off my chest....but now's just not the right time.  I don't need the extra stress and frustration.  

I appreciate your comments so much.

Jacqui

[newmanagment]

Call and tell em your done, if she doesnt listen to ya neway, then what good will it do for you to go in and speak with her.As worried said, she is not worrying about this tonite!! And why do you feel obligated to keep an appointment, she didnt feel obligated to get  you the help you wanted, even when you did all the work? I own a small construction business, when i fire an employee i do it face to face. but it sounds like she hasnt earned the right to expect that same curteosity. good luck in whatever you decide!!!

[Jacqui805]

I feel SO relieved that I cancelled.  It helped to put it out on the table so to speak, because I didn't want to trust my subjective feelings while I was so fearful.  In the end, my mind is at ease, and I feel like I took a more proactive step, rather than unnecessarily cause myself more aggravation.  I will address her in the future though.  I just need to be further along this road to health and well-being before I do so.  

You probably didn't see my last post regarding this, but I will address her because I not only don't want her to get away with it, but I will not tolerate her doing it to others either.

Thanks so much!

Jacqui

[worried878]

Personally...I would not go...The doc probably is not worrying about this tonight at all and probably would not even notice that you do not show up....If you think it will make you feel better, I guess i would go...I just cant spend any extra energy right now on stress that will not be constructive or change anything...everyone's coping mechanisms are different tho...and I would be mad as heck that she failed to diagnose you...she may need to hear that so that it does not happen again and she is more careful next time...that would be the only reason I would go is to possibly help the next person who sees her with a problem so she may take a closer look and not miss anything like she did with you...good luck with whatever you decide to do...you sound so much better lately!

[Jacqui805]

I handled the issue.  I was spinning, and it was driving me nuts.  The person helping me now, in conjunction with the new doc. called me to say he had called her and wants me to see him, and she even forgot to tell him about the new heart troubles.  He still wants to see me.  I asked her, she's an oncology nurse, for her opinion, and she not to go to the other doc.  No good was gonna come out of it.  Incidentally, there's no right or wrong here, so any of you who suggested otherwise, your points were duly noted.  My eldest, who's as peeved as I am over all of this, and has seen me suffer, and suffered as a result of "losing" her mom to some extent, wanted me to go just so she could give her hell.  She's like me, so, she'd have given the she-doc a real run.  I almost considered the aggravation just so she could get it off of her chest.  

At some point, a little further on, this doc. shall be confronted.  I cannot let her get away with this, and I cannot let her do it to anyone else.  I am thanking you all for listening to me and for all of your opinions.  I cannot tell you how relieved I was just by letting it out!

Jacqui

[swtbreezie]

Hi  and I agree with most it is not worth the upset if you have another good doc.  BUT if she cued you damage you might want to visit an attorney instead of her and tell them your story.  I am not in favor of law suits but sometimes doctors cn cause irrepairable harm when things arent done such as blood work and stuff.  Just a thought sweetie.
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