I've been so hesitant to ask for opinions on this, but...

[Jacqui805]

Oh God, I can't believe I'm gonna do this....may sound trivial to some, but for me, with all that's happened to me regarding poor treatment, it's not.  A couple weeks ago, some of you may remember the "state" I was in.  I could not stand not sleeping anymore, along with the severe anxiety, all from the w/d.  I was right in the middle of switching docs., and the one I'm going to see, who's been actually helping me with my health issue, swears the one I did see is as much of a putz as I think she is, and has been negligent with me.  She sat on her butt all the while I was getting sicker and sicker, and now some of this damage may be permanent.  Anyway, here's the issue at hand..

She was my doc. at the time two weeks ago, although I had not seen her since '06 (she had me on the med.).  I called out of desperation to get some relief, and, she obliged, but had her nurse have me set up an appt. with her.  I made that appt. for two weeks from then, which falls tomorrow.  Like an axe, for me.  I'm petrified of her.  It's not a doc./pt. thing so much as it being pis*ed off at her, knowing she's not done o.k. by me, ignored problems that others docs. picked up, and wouldn't take their advice, or listen to me plead to send me to The Mayo Clinic.  I loathe her, and I am going to see a new doc. within two weeks.  I'm also afraid I will not be able to hide my contempt for her, and afraid of the venom I might spew.  Trouble is, I feel "obligated" to go for the one time visit because she prescribed me the "help" to get through the end of the w/d.  I've been counting down every day, and sweating out tomorrow.  I'm so embarrassed to be putting this here, but I am not sure what to do.  Fear can mess my thinking up in the worst way.  Any suggestions?

Jacqui

[toxictome]

As a consumer/patient, it is your right to hire/fire whoever you want to give/not give
you medical care. I think at this point I would blow it off. Just call the office and say" I'd like to cancel my appt. for tomorrow. Thank you." If they ask if you want to reschedule, say you'll call back...it's not like they will chase you down. The Dr. probably won't even know...I just can't see paying another office visit, for what????

Or wait until after you see the other Dr...it's really up to you, but if i wasn't getting the treatment i thought i deserved..i sure wouldn't keep returning...

Best of luck!!!.

[mimi1313]

I hope you didn't take that the wrong way. I just get very emotional when I have to confront someone who has done something as wrong as what your doctor has done to you. I'm a big baby and cry easily. As a medical professional, I'm sure you could hold it together much better than I.

As for the belittling, I think that is warranted in this case. I changed my mind, Maybe you should go. It may be very cathartic for you.

[confused456]

HI TWIN......MISSED YOU BUNCHES!!!
OK, I say, call and cancel, tell them that you got a call from the school about your daughters field trip that you signed up for and its tomorrow. If they ask you to reschedule, say, I'm sorry, but I already have a different doctor, or if you don't wanna tell 'em that, just say you have to check your schedule and call them back, but don't call back. I think its going to do more harm than good!!!!

[Jacqui805]

Mimi, I meant to thank you for your support too.  Sorry if it sounded like I was yelling.  I didn't mean it that way.

Thanks Marce. I appreciate every word and every opinion.

[Jacqui805]

Feoh, thanks for the support.

Mimi,

Trouble is, I've told her over and over, and had my husband, and several doctors tell her what she should be doing.  She kept telling us over and over at appts. she would get it done, even writing it in the chart.  Then, she would say, when we'd call her or go to see her, she didn't know how.  So, I'D DO ALL THE LEGWORK, and tell her, HERE, JUST DO THIS.  She wouldn't.  Even tomorrow, I can be totally professional, but who wants to sit in front of someone who refuses to listen, talk about your brick wall.  I'm thinking I'm just gonna frustrate myself.  I've reasoned with her as another medcial professional to another, and she just did nothing.  The venom I may spew, wouldn't be shouting or crying, more like how pis*ed I am, and how wronged I was, and how I might suffer for the rest of my life because of it.. and that type of thing.  It may come out with a bad tone in my voice though, because I'd basically be telling a med. professional **** she should know, so it might sound belittling.  AH!!!!  

[Marce4]

I would cancel the appt?  It is SOOO not worth getting all worked up over this. Unless you think it will give you peace of mind to see her, you are well within your rights to see who you want, when you want. If it will make you feel worse or you think you might lose it on her than DON'T GO!  If you feel you can calmly and rationally explain to her how you feel, then go but do what is best for you, not because you feel some allegiance to her!
Good Luck in your decision,,,it will be the right one!