butterflies in the belly and not good ones

[pickel33]

how do you stop the butterflies in the stomach and not good ones? its more like your waiting for  test result to come back. i can't stand it, i want it to go away. what works without medicne from a doctor. any holistic stuff. vitamin something. help. what have you tired and what works...... tired pickel

[JSGeare]

Do I have this right? If I have a sure-fire remedy -but it is not a vitamin and not holistic -you're not going to do it? Let's forget about the manufacturer's labels and advertising and do WHAT WORKS.

Family care-taker and "tired of the job."

Ah-HA! That is what we in the police business call, "a clue." If we may assume that the moths in your tummy reflect a growing uneasiness with the situation in which you are stuck, than we could reasonably consider anxiety as a prime mover here. That's an "IF," pickle -you need competent medical attention to narrow this down. And I can tell you that in the 40+ years I was a panic sufferer (the butterfly was "Mothra") not a single doctor or health care professional ever told me to take a vitamin, drink green tea or switch my bed to run north and south -and I did practice TM.

I promise you, I PROMISE you, I'm not just tossing hand grenades your way. But I AM trying to get your attention.

IF your problem is the result of a vitamic deficiency, then getting the missing vitamin may well help -that's a doctor question. And whether or not the practitioner has "Holistic" as part of his or her degree, the treatment doesn't care: it will either work, or it won't, or work some -it is positively agnostic about holistic.

The "I'll try anything" is more hopeful. You don't want to go overboard with that, either and start popping a punch of pills to make it all go away.

So what's left?

YOU are left. Ultimately, no matter what school of thought is involved, YOU will be your best care-taker and agent of cure. You can get plenty of alternative treatments, supplements and what-have-you without anyone's permission, so if it doesn't hurt you, then what the heck, jump right in, I think. But if what you want is some resolution, that probably means therapy -talking through all the history and challenges that have brought you to where you are -and then changing your life to account for it. That care-taker role, in my estimate, is going to be HUGE. Yes, you take care of THEM. Now, WHO takes care of you?

Good question, isn't it? A dollar to a donut says that question is lurking in the background and that there is uncertainty about it. Follow the butterflies.

Well, one thing for sure, the folks here on the forum, as you will note, will do their very best to take care; that's why we are all here for each other. Every last one of us is a caretaker for everyone else here. And most of us have discovered that each of us is our own best care-taker. Grateful as we are for the attention, love and concern of others, at the end of the day, it is all about us taking care of ourselves.

And one way to do that is to understand ourselves better; and one way to understand ourselves better is to get with someone who "knows the territory" of our psychology -a good psychiatrist. I commend this to you, to at least get counseling, and spare yourself "trying" this or that. The answer is within you -it really, really is.

So, for all the care you have administered to others, the time has come for YOU. Let's get with it, OK?

Please stay in touch with us -you, as so many others, will find that merely having presented yourself to a community of fellow travelers, is the boundary event in overcoming the problems. I'm very glad you are here.

Stay with us.

[pickel33]

thanks ill try anything.... and it is a horrible feeling... ill try anything. i have too much dramam in my life and im not even the oldest im the middle of 5 kids and i have no children of my own. im the family care taker and im just tired of the job...

[suzi-q]

What I used to do (before children) is I would lay down and listen to soft music and just breathe.  I would focus on my breathing until it went away.

However, if you are at work, or home running after someone the trick is diversion.  Get your mind off of yourself and put your mind into what you are doing.  Focus on ANYTHING but yourself....I know, I know...easier said than done, but with practice it will work...I have been there...I know.  It is a horrible feeling.