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please please help!! i CANT STOP

i have for the last 8 months not been able to stop picking my eyelashes, i just pull them out till i look stupid, and its at its worst right now! i feel like a freak and it gets me so down. im currently on anti depressants, because i have been through a little the last year, but i just feel like there making it worse! its gotten to the point now where ill use tweezers to pull out the small ones growing back, i have huge gaps in them, and im so scared there never going to grow back. another problem is my family just dont seem to take it serious, and my fiance just gets annoyed at me, but i cant help it, its almost like i enjoy the small pain thats there, and the ones grwing back come out so easily it worries me. im not the most serious person at talking to people, and i'd like my mum to see just how upset its making me but i just dont know how, and i have no idea how to stop, realisticly, the things ive heard about playing with raw onions to stop you putting your fingers near yours eyes is just stupid, and doesnt work! please help me someone, and let me know im not a complete FREAK! xxxxx Rhiannon
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First of all, you are not a freak. There is actually a diagnosis for people who have excessive hair pulling.  I think it is called trichotillomania and it can be treated... and you are definitely not alone with this.  If you don't want to use medications, have you ever considered counseling or cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), which can help you control your urges to do this?  In my opinion, with any problem that we face, if we learn about it, we can begin to confront it.  Please keep on working at it and don't get down on yourself about this...we all have issues and it is a normal part of life.  Feel free to ask as many questions as you like!
1160404 tn?1262937802
Hey hon -
You have Trichtotillomania - an anxiety disorder that manifests itself in hair pulling.  You aren't a freak (they wouldn't have a name for the disorder if you were the only one, now would they?) :)
I would recommend seeing a psychologist about it  - you're already on meds (maybe a switch would do you good too?).  Therapy works wonders for this disorder and most people completely get over it.  Bonus - your eyelashes will likely grow back too.  

Don't feel alone and don't let others non-reactions to it make you feel silly.  Anxiety disorders like OCD, GAD, and Trichtotillomania are serious and they cause the sufferer dispair, hopelessness, and worry.  People from the outside looking in often don't understand that (and media portrayals of "funny" OCD people doesn't help).  You aren't alone and this is very very treatable.  Let us know how you are doing...
968908 tn?1274874715
Hi guys

Just wanted to say thank-you to aquamarine because like roonon i too pull out my hair but not my eyelashes, the hair on my head.  I have several bald patches, most can't be seen but i took to palling the hair out from my fringe and now have a massive balding patch at the front of my scalp which everyone can see.... I too find it so embarrassing and wish i could stop but as soon as my hands have nothing to do or i'm sitting watching a programme and it gets a little intense i find my hand goes striaght to my head and i start to pull... single hairs only, i will play with the hair for a min or two and then pull it out....Most of the time i don't even realise i am doing it.  bad thing is i think i am damging the hair folical cause the area i pull the most is starting to go grey, which makes me pull them even more!

So just thought i'd let you know ur not alone in this, others have it too.  
968908 tn?1274874715
sorry didn't say why i'm saying thnk-u, it's because i never knew there was a name for it and now i do it feels a bit better......
1160404 tn?1262937802
You're welcome - anytime. :)
1138687 tn?1548647578
Hey Rhiannon, I would like to include that I think you should be honest with your fiance and family on how you really feel. And like hair, eylashes grow back!
704329 tn?1518526698
I would agree with aquamarinemoon on the hair pulling/eye lashes and diagnose it as Trichtotillomania. I suffered from this bad as a child mostly untill i reached J.High School. I mainly never noticed myself pulling out my hair or other hair such and my eyebrows. After I started noticing the bald spots and so on, people started noticing too. The humiliation was brutual and i always had to wear hats...and still do..lol. I was able to out grow this disorder to some digree, but i still find myself doing the odd pull here and there, and im now 25. So will it ever go away?...Some say it can be cured and some say it can't. I believe you need to have a clear mind for sure. Speak any issues to someone or see any type of counsellor that your health care provides. Medications are okay, maybe some type of SSRI or Benzodiazepine you can try...but I would first try to talk to anyone that can listen, understand, and help. Someone who can't do any of those, isnt going to help...Good luck
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