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[sushil34]

im from india i had unprotected sex with a lady before 3 moths who is having two kids,from next days i got itching on penis but nothin was there on penis skin but my left vein of my penis is always seen n when i masterbate it pains on the vein,i went to doctor he told me to check hiv and vdrl test and gave me a pill  on 1st week it came -ve,but aching was still there....on 76th day i again went to check hiv test and it came -ve.....then on 90 day my body started aching(body aching includes eye also sweatning hands loosening in stool)then on 91st day i again checked hiv test n vdrl both came -ve....im worried very much abt aching n somtime pain in throat.....
##will i be hiv later.... or std???
if i have a conclusive test then why the same symptoms of hiv is happening with me...tell me one thing more i read most of the posts of ur site all people mainly having the same problem as im....why does this happen...???does it sometimes happen after sex??
one more thing i hd been a patient of anxiety....but but not a typical patient...will it lead to wait me for next 3 months
if someone is already a patient of anxiety does it matter to wait for 3 next months
in hiv n std forum doctors told me that it may be due to anxiety....
these symptims have increased my anxiety....u tell me whats this.....what medicine should i take????

[birdie0907]

Here is a quote from a biotech company's website.
"The human body contains about 10 trillion cells, and is host to 100 trillion bacterial cells." So you can see, the human body is so complex that you can't fixate on one thing and wonder if that will cause a problem for you. Anything can happen over the course of your life.

[birdie0907]

Don't waste your money on any more tests. You were exposed to a human once but tests show you did not get any HIV and that is all that happened. Do you know how hard it is to catch HIV from a woman that is infected anyway, and you don't even know that she was infected?

Since the tests show that you don't have HIV, accept that because there are a lot of other things that you have a higher probability of catching such as cancer, heart attack, car accident, serious infection etc. The list is endless, and you can't spend your life being tested for all of them. You can't crawl under the car or bus to inspect the suspension every time you catch a ride either.
I heard that some smokers worry about a terror strike, when the odds of getting a smoking cancer outweigh multiple times the chance of ever getting bombed.

You have to put the % of danger into perspective and live your life right now, not tomorrow when you think you will have all the answers and think you will not have anything to fear.
In your case the chance of HIV is 0.000000% so enjoy your life. It is short, and unpredictable, so don't spend too much time even trying to plan what will happen because you will be disappointed at the large number of unhappy surprises that crop up in the most unlikely places. Deal with them when they occur and live right now.

[sushil34]

thnx alot very much for ur response ill be in touch with u....may god blass u n make u happy!!!
on 12 of this month my  4 month of exposure will complete thinking to retest....

[Mitch82]

angeldoll and sushi, if it makes you feel any better i have had a cramps in my stomach for about 3 weeks, happens to everyone I am certainly not jumping to conclusions

[birdie0907]

Asking if you can marry because you think you might have HIV is really asking if you have HIV. Since the test said no HIV, you need to accept that and stop worrying about HIV. Maybe write on a piece of paper that you do not have HIV and look at it on the piece of paper for 10 minutes. That should convince you that you are ok. Be sure to rip it up and destroy it though!
Your symptoms are just some body aches and sweating. Is this correct? EVERYONE gets those, once in a while but almost no one gets HIV. Maybe write that down on paper and convince yourself of that too.

Write back.

[allie3656]

i went through the same thing in regards to HIV anxiety. when i was 19 (9 years ago) i slept with a man that did drugs with a needle. i didn't know that at the time otherwise i would have never slept with him. but anyways i was obsessed with HIV!! i swore up and done i had it. i too got tested and everything was ok, but then i heard that it could show up months later. so i worried some more, then about 3 months later i forgotten all about it. something else ocuppied my time and maybe that 's what you need to do. i'm sure the pressure of your parents wanting you to marry is causing anxiety. just tell yourself this is anxiety not HIV! breathe and relax.