i dont want to scare you even further, but my experience was almost identical. i had a bleeding discharge, took me off of the pill and told me i was fine...3 yrs later, i had bc and a mastectomy.
now for the good news! it is okay, really....i dont lie (except about shopping to my husband..) you need to go thru your stages of grief and freakout....BUT then you need to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and fix it....im not saying this to be mean but just to give you a reality check.....
you have kids...they still need you...a loss of a breast doesnt make you any less of a woman, wife or good mother. you CAN do this...depression isnt going to make it go away or any easier to deal with. you ARE strong...you are a woman...and we can do anything!!!!
my mantra was ''suck it up''...and to look at the funny side...you have to find the humor in it...after you do that, then hopefully you will find the goodness and the joy in every other thing in your life.
im here for you and so are a lot of other people...take one step at a time and deep breaths...
please dont hide yourself from everyone who cares about you..you need them and they will want to help you...let them.
sorry if this seems a bit rambly...i dont mean to be brash or rude..i just want you to be okay...not only physically but mentally too...its a lot to process in a short period of time..but you CAN do it...i promise.
im here for you!
Darcy