Lack of want/need romantic relationships?

[lintugamer]

Hello.
I'm wondering, is this normal, to just not care about romantically being with someone?  Firstly, I must add that I personally don't have a problem in any way with the way I am, and am only asking out of curiosity spurred on by the fact that it seems many other people find this to be quite abnormal behavior.  
I have been in relationships before, never for very long, however.  My longest one was 10 months, the second longest being only three (however I'd known the kid for a year beforehand).  Those were the only two committed relationships I've ever been in, and I had one other that lasted only a small while and was purely physical.  This was only occasional, however, and we never had sex.  I was sexually active with both of my committed relationships, however although I was 'ready' for it, I had no interest in it after about the second time.
I don't really understand relationships, or attraction.  I have experienced what I thought was love, but only for short periods of time (with each of my committed relationships).  After too long, I got sick of them, however, and gradually began to dislike, and eventually hate them.  The first didn't end very well, and we broke contact.  The second, I said we'd 'stay friends' with no intentions to actually do so.  He, however, didn't understand that I was abiding by formalities and has been continuing to try and speak with me, which drives me up the wall.  
I don't understand cuddling, kissing, etc.  It doesn't interest me.  People have to basically force me to give them a hug, and I always glare at them before doing so, a warning not worth ignoring for the next time they're looking for affection.  I don't like people, and have often been described as a 'robot' and 'having no feelings'.  I've also been described as a 'great person', and by the same people, 'vindictive, condescending, and manipulative'.  Which, is true.  I do tend to use people, but I don't really get what is so ridiculous about it.  I don't feel bad, and I get annoyed when other people expect me to.
I don't really get crushes on people, and if I do, they are rare and last very short.  I don't really have any sexual drive, and if I get any sexual urges, they fly off before I can even satisfy them.  I would love a friend to follow me around (and know when to leave me to myself) and be there, but I don't want romance, and I don't want sex.  I don't even feel like I can fully process what love or a want for a relationship is.  They seem stupid to me, a waste of time, and don't even get me started on marriage or children.  

[lintugamer]

Well, to credit myself a little more, I do nice things for people as well.  I'll bring them things, occasionally help them out. A lot of times I think it's a subconscious apology for the way I am.  (Good example, my dog died and I never really reacted.  I didn't cry, and although I understood, logically, why everyone else was, I didn't.  I brought my mother some flowers to make her feel a little better.  She still vented to me, though.  (I don't know why people come and vent to me, I don't care.  I suppose it's because I say what the logical action to take is, and generally, that's the one that's going to get you somewhere.. it is annoying, though.)
I  can deal with people, I do have a job that they really , and have one friend.  So, I'm not all bad.  

I don't think I'm asexual, just because I have seen people as sexually attractive.  However, it is usually intangible people (actors, etc.).  

As for my childhood, I suppose it wasn't completely normal, but then I think no one has a perfect upbringing.

[Londres70]

Will agree with Nursegirl.  

The way you describe yourself and people is very concerning.  This is so ABNORMAL that you aren't able to really connect with other people/other human beings.  

Would HIGHLY recommend you consult a Psychiatrist.  

Let me ask you this:  How was your family life growing up?  Have you ever experienced any abuse or something traumatic in your life?  OR has your life been super and you pretty much feel the way you do and nothing major happened to cause you to feel this way?  

[nursegirl6572]

There's a lot more going on here than just your lack of interest in having a significant other.  You loathe people touching you or showing you affection, and even glare at them when they do so.  You use words like "hate" when it doesn't really seem fitting to a situation.  You grew tired of someone, broke up with them, and then hate then because you remain friendly?  Yeah, that's a little odd.

I think this goes way deeper than sex, and I don't think it would hurt to be evaluated by a psychiatrist.  There are a lot of different disorders that would present exactly in the way you describe.

[thatquietgirl]

It's perfectly normal.  It's known as asexuality of which there are different types.  Yes, a lot of people look at it as abnormal, but it's not.  There are plenty of people who simply don't have a sexual attraction to others or understand relationships.

The manipulation, condescension, and vindictiveness, however, are concerning traits, however.