Should I take her back?

[extrmeski]

This could be a really long story but I'll try and be brief as possible.  My G/f and I were together for 2 1/2 years.  It was a strange relationship to say the least as for some reason she would run away from me then come back.  It wasn't as if she ran away to someone else, it just seemed that she would go through these cycles.  Anyway I loved her so much I would do anything for her.  When she is her "normal self" she is wonderful, but seems that she goes through these personality changes I can't explain it.  Her childhood was horrible and it maybe left over from that.  Her self preservation feelings are very high, and it makes her do funny things.  
Anyway we haven't been together since Nov.  In Jan. she wanted to give things another shot but I was in Arizona and she was in Ohio.  We tried the long distance thing and I did what I could to help her and support her.  In April she tells me that she is pregnant and she was cheating on me with some idiot of a guy, way younger than her (which is funny as she always like older guys).  I was totally devistated as I adored this woman.  A few days go by and she tells me that she knows she made a mistake and she wants to be with me.  So I start the process all over again of talking things through and being there for her.  Then in June of this year, her calls were less and less.  I find out she moved in with some other guy.  Again I was almost suicidal!  I was hurting so much.  Now she tells me that she is done with him, moving out, and had learned her lesson.  She is telling me that these experiences have changed her and she knows that she will never find anyone as good as me.
I should be elated to have her back again but I am having mixed emotions.  I mean I've been praying so hard for her to come back but how do I trust her?  Am I just a fool?

[Agiesmom]

Ok...you know what she is and you continue to go back for more.  If you have any sense whatsoever, you'll change your phone number and make it unlisted and never call her again.  And you need to be more particular about your choices in women in the future.  Like someone else said, work on yourself and maybe when you are healthier (physically and mentally), you'll make better choices in partners.

All the best to you.

[jo929]

Boy did you get a lot of good advice, and you still asked why she is doing trhis to you, and you say you still care, she will keep calling but as i said in my previous post, if you take her back you also need to see a counsler, she is a very manipulive person, and will never change, but i hope you  have took the cotton out of your ears and are listening to them because it is the best advice you will ever get   luck  jo

[Glo_worm]

i gotta say it's a damned shame you are getting "immuned" to being treated like ****. someone with a big loving heart SHOULD have someone to love them back. with everything they have as well. and like everybody else is saying you are her toy. she plays with you when shes bored or wants a laugh and then drops you when she sees something "better" but she won't throw you out becuz she knows you always be there. please don't waste anymore of your time. we deserve better.  and with time and God's help i'm sure well find what He really has for us. we'll be ok :)

[extrmeski]

Thanks for your comments, the good news is that I am really getting immune to this stuff, and my reactions are not as strong as they used to be.  I'm getting better and can start to see her for what she really is.  A user, manipulator, a very non caring person.  She is the only person she cares about.
She sounded totally stoned out of her mind most likely xanex.

[mami1323]

This is what she does....she's lost her control over you and she's freaking out.  It's not love, it's abuse the way she treats you and it's total and undeniable manipulation.  Don't give in and I think you should change your number so that she can not contact you any more.  You need to be strong here.  She's using her son as bait.  I feel for her child but right now you need to focus on your feelings.  

[extrmeski]

grrr why can't she leave me alone now?  She is calling me with her sob stories, her son is sick, she is sick, she is trapped in this relationship and is just settling as she doesn't have any options etc...  OMG