I have recently started the process of becoming sexually active. However, the last two guys I have let finger me...I have found that it has hurt tremendously, and they are only able to get their finger in like half an inch. Both of them have said, "It's not even in, it shouldn't hurt." Considering this is a recurring issue, with the same results, from two different sources, I find myself wondering if something is wrong with me.
The last guy and I talked about it, and he said nothing feels wrong or unusual inside of me. He is pretty sure there is no hymen. If there was something physically odd about me, I would assume he'd at least be able to tell. He did (I'm sorry to be graphic) lean me over the bed and finger me from behind at a different angle, and he said he was able to get further in.
So, is it possible that I have a misshapen/tipped anatomy that I should alert potential lovers about? I am afraid to move to the next level (sex) because I worry that the guy will try to push something in where it can't be pushed. I am sure this is an issue for an OB/Gyn, but until I can see one, I guess I just don't know what to do.