Have i got a problem w/alcohol-part 2

[ibizan]

there is no such thing as can't quit....its just not ready too.... and won't quit!

[more0then0a0virus]

Thanks for answering. It`s ok to see it from different perspective.

I´m sorry about your husband. It must have been hard for you. I hope I won`t offend you by saying this, but alcoholism doesn`t show up from one glass. Realistically, you could inform yourself, conclude you don`t need that kind of husband, and leave him before many years.

But you didn`t. You decided to be there. You put your feelings, emotions, hope and marriage in front of realistic viewing even though emotional hell of that kind of life must have been harming you. When I drink, I also put my emotional needs in front of realistic commitments in spite of harming myself.

Every person has got his own way of dealing with things. Your is, obviously, displaced aggression and mine, besides that, is suppression, denial, repression... (probably yours too because you stayed with your husband so long). And alcohol helps to do so.

Anyways, I like the fact you showing not drinking as it is - simple.

And if you have got this need to express your displaced aggression, please do NOT talk to other people on this forum about that because they do not drink really long. Here I am. Blame me if that makes you feel better. I don`t mind. Or care.

I hope your kids are fine, due to their father. And don`t be angry. I mean, you can if you want to. But then it`s like you haven`t even left your husband. You should enjoy, isn’t that a point of leaving him? Now you`ve finally got an opportunity to have typical life without presence of addiction.

[dominosarah]

Shut the F Up........Nice huh?

[ibizan]

whats STFU?

[dominosarah]

  Most of us in here are in recovery and have been sober for quite some time.  Educate yourself on addiction.  Have you gotten any type of therapy?  We fully understand what we did to our families, we cant change what happened but we can make sure it doesnt happen again.  You are very angry and rightfully so but please dont attack us here.  You are living in your own prison and it doesnt have to be that way.....All the best          sara

[babygames]

Good Luck and God Bless all on here who are cursed with alcohol addiction.  My husband was sober for 9 years.  But in the last 10 years he has relapsed more than he has stayed sober.  He got it. He attended meetings.  Said all the cute little quotes, about one day at a time, give time time, blah blah blah.  He seems to have done evertyhing..but stay sober.  So here I sit an angry bitter woman, with 3 children who have not seen or spoken to their father in almost 2 years.  While he sits on a barstool..crying in his beer, living thelife he never should of gave up.   He never should have quit.Save my children and I  the heartache and save him from a life lived sober was all in vain. SO my advice to all of you, QUIT, just give it up stop bellyaching over how everything affects you..causes so much anxiety and worry and you feel bad. Like no one else in the world has a bad day.  or a bad week or a bad year..be an adult put one foot infront of the other and go on Better yet .. Grow up, get sober,or dont.. and STFU!

[more0then0a0virus]

These expressions like "rot in here" and stuff like that... I always have a need to say them or write them down when I`m depressive, hopeless or self-destructive. When my mood changes into "stabile" one, I know my ideas are unreal.

And insanity... It`s so sweet of you to say that (i`m joking). But you are right. But this time is different. Normally, when I screw it up, I keep drinking few evenings until I screw it up once again(my parents find out)... This time I started to do so, but I`ve decided to stop that. I won`t drink.  

Thanks for being supportive. Now I know I can do it. And I fu**ing will...