You really dont want that on your daughter's record. Even if she comes off of Heroin, its going to become really hard for her to find a career with a felony. And after trying to get a job but being a felon, I predict her to go Right back to heroin...
You should do A Lot of Persuasion, and talk her in to admitting herself, or something to that Effect.
Or simply call a Drug couselor and ask them what the best line of action should be?
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My daughter is 25, She is addicted to heroin and has a blood infection that is in her heart. It almost shut down her kidneys and went in her herat. She walked out of a hospital. She went back when she got worse. She needs 6 weeks anti-biotics from the infection being in her heart. If she doesn't stay she will get worse and eventually die and she lives with two friends that still do the drug. On ehas warrents out on him.They have visited her in the hospital and snuck the drug into her. They pretended to be family and snuck it in the whole time even when the hospital discovered it and get a watch on her room.
Even worse, she signed herself out against medical advice. She looked terrible, so pale and thin. Her arms are marked by a serious infections. A doctor said she will get sicker and die without treatment. Nothing we say means anything to her.
Some one suggested calling the police because one of te guys she lives with is wanted on bench warrents for serious crimes. There is urgency because they are moving November 1 and we may never know where Nicole is after that.
There is some concern that something will go wrong. I thought of calling and saying we are neighbors and have children and see a lot of activity there that could be drugs and fear they have a gun. A friend even volunteered to call for us. Any advice would be appreciated. Would you call the police to hopefully arrrest them and get her treatment?
Heartbroken,
I just placed a police report tonight on my daughter, 23. She has been and addict for years and pleading for help. she has been in and out of recovery programs... out patient, in patient, short term and long term. She was in jail for 6 months for steeling from her brother to get money for her drugs. then transferred to long term. She trived. They LOVED her. She graduated and then the stresses of LIFE, JOB and BOYFRIEND found her lost and depressed and she began using here and there. She put herself in out patient again. THEN she found out she was pregnant. Tried to get back on track. Had fights with the babies father and broke down and used again. I picked her up from the city high on heroin. She called for help. I drove her straigt the her Counselors office.. they put her in the hospital and then moved her into a long term facilitly for Pregnant women. She was doing well .... and begining to show. She started getting very depressed not being home or with her Boyfriend. Got in a fight with the counselors at the rehab and walked out... we told her she could not live with us until she finished the program because we just knew she was emotionally mature or stable enough.. We had to SEE some long clean time and a change. She is bright and beautiful.... really. But her drug addiction has her in its grips still.
Anyhow, a few days ago, she came into my house in the middle of the night, stole my purse and took my bank card and stole $400 from my account... later she addmitted it was to bail a friend out of jail. Then I researched it and that wasn't true. She admitted to using and spent it ALL.
SHE IS 4 MOS. PREGNANT. Now I have to worry about the baby and HER! I cried and cried and cried... AGAIN! I just did not know what to do. All of the counselors, nar anon folks, etc. agreed I had to turn her in. She may hate me (but i know she wont forever, really) but, like you said, I KNOW she'll be safe in jail at least the baby may have a clean start. She was on probation from before, so she'll go back to jail and hopefully she'll go back COURT ORDERED again to LONG TERM rehab. SHE has to suffer the consequences of her behavior! I know that, and this is a consequence. I am sick and heartbroken.. again. I LOVE her so very much and she knows that too. I know this is a disease.. but i just do not want her to kill herself or this baby. God I pray and pray and pray....... all day every day.
Thank you, again, for sharing! It help me SO MUCH in trying to "understand" the "WHY" question!
As mentioned, I thought about everyting you wrote to me last night, and I tried to piece together what happened to her...what her "demons" are...I "think" what happend to her, is that she had a couple of relationships, in a row, with guys who probably "used" her, then "dumped" her. She moved to Arizona in 2005 with her volleyball buddy, and attended ASU. She met a guy, fell in love, and basically gave her life to him..quit playing volleyball, and went to classes "off and on". This guy seemed nice (I flew down to Arizona to visit her several times, and met this guy). After a year he "dumped" her. She was devestated..She then met this other guy. I met him, too. He was kind of a "bad boy" type. He decided to move back to Minnesota (he is Norwegian, as we are, and she felt a very strong connection with him). She decided to move to Minnesota with him, and didn't tell me until she was in Minnesota. I told her that I thought it was a mistake, as she had no family, or friends in Minnesota, and she quit school to move there with him, etc.. etc.. 6 months, he dumped her..Again, she was devestated. She had a job, but no family or friends, etc..and she wasn't going to school. I flew one of her cousins back to Minnesota to help her move back to the Northwest. I financed her move. I told her she could move in with me, and my husband, in Cali., but she didn't know anyone down here, and decided to back to the Northwest. From what my youngest daughter told me, once my drug addict daughter arrived back in Oregon, she "re-connected" with some of her old high school friends. One of these friends, ahd gone down the "drug path". (And these kids were good kids..I knew all of them through HS sports). Apparently, she was "talked into" trying Oxy..she immediately got hooked, and graduated to heroin...during this time, my youngest daughter found out about the drug abuse. She called me, crying, etc.. I had just been diagnosed with breat cancer, had bi-lateral mastectomie, and was on heavy chemo treatments...I flew up, inbetween chemo treatments. and tried to talk to my drug addicted daughter..she lied to e and told me that "there was nothing wrong"...A few months later, is when my youngest daughter told me that my drug addict daughter was driving "high and drunk"...that is when I flew up and took my car back ( I had bought her a brand new car when she moved to Arizona)..again..I tried to talk her into going into rehab..she ignored me..a few months later, I flew up again, and again, she was driving high and drunk. (Her father had given her one of his cars). That was August of 2009. That was when I called the police in hopes she would be picked up and forced into court ordered rehab. That is when she told me, "I hate you and wish you would die, and if yuo died tommorrow, I wouldn't go to your funeral"..Long story, but I think the "WHY" question, may be that she had "2" bad relationships with guys in a row, she even moved to another state to be with the last boyfriend, only to be dumped...I think she felt guilty for not playing VB anymore, etc.. (She began attending college, again, once she moved back to Oregon, but I think she dropped out after Fall of 2009)...so maybe the "WHY" is that she had her heart broken BIG TIME twice in a row...maybe that sent her over the edge...Just an idea....
You are right...She is on my mind EVERY day..I have cried a river of tears over her and not knowing what to do to help her get well..
It has put a strain on my relationship with my husband, as he is so mad at ehr biological father, and he is sick of seeing me so sad..I try to hide my sadness from him now.
Thank you..I will try to take care of myself, emotionally..My oncologist keeps telling me to eliminate all stresses, as the "healing" process is so important, and stress and cause the healing process to slow down...so..I try not to think about it...
You are right..sometimes we just have to "let go" as it really IS up to the drug addict to WANT to get help....
Thank you so much for caring and sharing!! It helps me tremendously!!
What a sad story. My heart breaks for you. You have gotten some good advise here, but the bad part is, you cant help her til she wants it. I would like to add that you could benefit from some al-anon meetings. They are meetings for the family of addicts. There you can learn how to help her, even from afar. I wish you the best and will keep your family in my prayers.