Hi~ This is terribly sad and you're in a frustrating position. Calling the police may get the ball rolling but I have a feeling she'll end up in jail on her own. Everything she does
is illegal! As a mother,it's hard to sit back and watch this disaster unfold. I know.
But,you don't have a lot of choices. There is something called The Baker Act. It's a law
that enables the police to arrest someone and hold them for(I think) 72 hours,if the person is deemed to be a harm to themselves or to others. This usually leads to a rehab situation. I don't have all the details,you can check it out on Google...but I know a family can just call and give the police any info they have and the police decide.
That's all I can add. You're getting some great support here,as usual for the forum!
Keep posting~
Vicki
Oh..one more comment...her father has a BS, MA, a PhD (in "education" can you believe it?). I divorced him YEARS and YEARS ago (when the kids were little) as "he" is an alcoholic, he smoked pot, and he physically abused me. I had to get a restraining order on him. My fear is that my daughter has inherited a "predisposition" to addiction.
You make a number of excellent points. Yes, there is a lot of stigma associated with replacement therapy but at the end of the day the addict has to make the choice that helps THEM best regain control of their lives. There should be no one size fits all approach to recovery, RT can be a great *tool* to help the suffering addict stay alive and get the help they need.
kej57 I really feel for you, I sent you a PM and you have my prayers. No mother should have to go through what your having to but hopefully one day she will see that it was you who loved her enough to go to any lengths to save her life. Daddy dearest is enabling to the point of being completely toxic to her. I couldn't believe my eyes when I read what he said when he found out she was prostituting herself. Makes me think this sick ******* may be actually benefitting from the proceeds, maybe she's supplying his drug habit. At any rate I hope and pray she gets the help she really needs.
Thank you very, very, very much to all of you who have written to me! Please know, that I have read every word and will take all advice!!
My three daughters came from "middle class America". Her father and I are both college grads. She gre up in a wonderful community. Is smart, prettty, GREAT athlete (as mentioned...played 2 years of college volleyball). I took my daughters camping, fishing, travelling, all 3 played softball and volleyball.. even into college, and on and on....I just will never understand the "WHY"!!!
As mentioned, she will not speak to me..last conversation I had with her was August 2009...I will try to get her younger sister to speak to her about methodone, although I have a feeling she is SOOO far gone, she only sees the world through her "heroin haze"..that is why I was thinking about calling the police..I would rather have her hating me, but in jail "sobering up" than do nothing and have to plan a funeral!!
As previously mentioned, her father won't do ANYTHING (and HE has the power to, as his name is on the lease to her apartment, he is paying ALL of her bills, etc...I cut her off financially when I discovered she was on drugs. I also took away the brand new car I had bought her, etc.. etc..I wanted her to hit "rock bottom")...He "doesn't want her to hate him"...WHAT??? So, he would rather see his daughter kill herself with drugs and continue being a prostitute??? I believe her father should serve jail time for "aiding and abetting"...
Thank all of you so much!! I'll talk to my younger daughter, and see what she thinks..again..I live in another state, which makes is 10 times as difficult!!!
my father, bless his soul, kidnapped me, locked me in a room in his house for about 3 days then dragged me to detox, picked me up from there and drove me to a long term rehab facility. i was broke and was there as an indigent. i could've left at any time. he sent my 2 daughters to stay with my sister in a state halfway across the country. the people i loved basically took over for me when i could no longer manage my own life. i was a heroin shooting, crack smoking fiend and was stealing, robbing, whatever! i stayed until released 10 1/2 months later. i had taken care of all my legal troubles, i had a job and was saving every penny so that when i got my kids back we could have a decent life. i moved to another state, got a job, rented a house. but i stopped going to meetings. slowly but surely i wound up strung out again.
the addict has to want to be clean every single day. and work just as hard at staying clean as they did staying high. it is HER choice. not alot of people can go to the extremes that my family went to for me. and still i let them down. but i am back now. keep posting on here. best wishes and peace, sway
I feel for you,We are going on saturday to a doc. that gives out methadone.Now most people think that this is just trading one for the other.But it does work when nothing else works.I think it might be her chance to get a life.Sound to be that its got her bad and she will DIE,if she keeps this up.Methadone can work and I will be able to tell you more this time next week.You have to do what you think is right,NO body wants to be in jail goin though W/D.You should try to get her to think about Methadone,They say its a 80% success rate.I know I would do anything to keep my child of the damm streets.Especially if she is selling her body for drugs and doesn't want to stop.I really feel for you.I am a drug addict and I have been trying now for about 6 mons to get sober and finnally we said the hell with this and are going to give the methadone treatment a try.alot of poeple don't think that this is the way but when you have tried evrything else.My wife is a drug addict to,Thats why I said both of us are doing this.You or someone talk to her about hte methadone.It will keep her from getting sick and that is the problem,she likes the high but now its the sick part that she hates and that is why she will do anything to get it.I am only saying this because I know all about the sick part,its bad bad.I wish you luck and I will tell you next week how thing are going with us.Get her into the program if you have tried everything else God bess you and the Kid